Is it normal that i wanna stop the wedding

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i'm 30 years old in a 3 year relationship with a 39 year old man, we are about to get married in two months time, all of a sudden i've started to be bothered by things that never bothered me in him before, it's like i'm seeing him in a different light altogether, we argue a lot about everything and i've even started to ask myself what is it that made me to fall in love with him in the first place, i can't tolerate his weaknesses anymore, feel like running away or just stop the wedding.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Do you trust your judgement? Because this could be that you: are nervous and picking over details after a 3 year relationship in which he was your chosen one; or, entered into a rash decision and are just now seeing the folly of your decision. I know there are a lot of points in between. So your call.

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  • Scarlett88
    11 years ago

    In the months leading up to my wedding I really started to dread it. I just wanted to run away and hide. My in laws were pushing and pushing us to do what they wanted and my now husband and I. I was questioning if I really wanted to put up with this for the rest of my life. What I had to do was really evaluate how I felt about my husband (fiancé at the time) and I realized that those little things that annoy me don't even come close to all the amazing things about him. Best of luck! I hope your wedding day is everything you have ever wished for!!

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  • MRmr
    11 years ago

    Dump him.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    That's why i don't believe in marriage.Everything would be normal without that title looming over your head.

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  • floorplan
    11 years ago

    I think in your head you need to make a list of pro's and con's and imagine life without him - this is what i do when things start to grind and all becomes clear.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    I definitely agree with floorplan. But if you guys have already been together for a long time now(im talking years), and things are just coming to the surface now, I would probably not think much of it. It could just be that you both have high stress levels at the moment, because you know that the wedding is coming up. If you both have been together for a shorter period of time, it might be better to not completely ignore these feelings you have. It could also be that it's happening too quickly. You guys might be great together, but not ready to actually marry each other. Anyway, it's probably a hard decision for you to make; go with it or not. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide! :)

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I think that it is normal to feel this way before a wedding. You are about to commit and it's for life and you fear of not being with the right person. These doubts are normal and it would have been weird if you didn't feel it. Maybe you need a friend to make you see things right, someone who know your couple well and who can reassure you.

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