Is it normal that i wait up for his messages?

80% Normal
10 Comments

My boyfriend is in the navy and currently on a ship, and he hardly finds signal to contact me via skype, emailing or facebook.
He recently got deployed to Japan and my nights are his day, Visa Versa, It is a very very long distance relationship.

I Love him to death, and if he messages me it will be completely spontaneous, so I wait up all night just to see if he does message me.

I do currently go to college, and this can get very hard on me, I sometimes feel very tired, but it would kill me to see a message from him and I wasn't there to respond and have a conversation with him.

Is this normal? To wait up all night just for a hint of him? Even though I'm potentially hurting my body from doing this?

Can any one tell me a few tips on how to deal with this?

Voting Results
80% Normal
Based on 41 votes (33 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 10 )
  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    My bf is stationed in korea right now so I know how this goes. I as well will wait up ridiculous hours into the night...usually about 4 or 5 am. It definitely hurts when I have work and school the next morning. He's sometimes been working 12 hours so he won't be online until that time. If I really do need my sleep, I just write him a message on facebook just telling him what I've been up to, I miss you, love you...all that good stuff. It's not as good as talking "live" but he writes me back so when I wake up I have something nice to read before my day starts. I know it's hard to go to sleep when you haven't talked to him, but you're not doing him any favors. When my bf sees me online in the wee hours of the morning, he knows I'm not getting any sleep and consequently worries about me. The last thing I want him to do is worry about me when he's in fucking Korea. Know what I mean? Just take care of yourself, be strong, and write him everyday whether he's online or not. When does he get to come back?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • KeepSmiling
      12 years ago

      well he's stationed in Japan for the next two years, I'll be joining him in a year then we'll be finishing the navy by eachothers side. It's this way because I have to finish college, it's only for another year. It gets REALLYYYY hard, but he is allowed to come visit me twice a year, and I'm allowed to visit him in the summer. I thank you for this message, It's nice to know I'm not the only one. When is yours coming back?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • lc1988
        12 years ago

        He comes back in May so I don't have too much longer. He got to come back for 30 days during christmas so it's not too bad. And on the bright side, his next base is in Florida. I'm totally a hypocrite though..the last week I've been staying up until 4 am at least lol.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • KeepSmiling
          12 years ago

          OMG HOW DO I LAST A YEAR. Not going to lie, we've been dating for three years and hes already been in the navy for a year. but i am sooo sexually frustrated right now. its KILLING me. hoooow do you do it

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • lc1988
            12 years ago

            In a word: Vibrator. I don't go the dildo route because I don't want anything in there but him. Sometimes we'll masturbate together on skype though.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • KeepSmiling
              12 years ago

              yeaa we do that too but he hasn't been able to skype in a while. ok well thanks! you've honestly helped me alooooot and i feel more assured about all this then i did, thanks!

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • awerfgaerg
    12 years ago

    No direct experience whatsoever, but the best idea I can think of is this: try to arrange a time where you two can talk to each other "live." Weekly, or something. Outside of those instances, as lc1988 pointed out, you might remind yourself that, although you're both dying to talk to each other, you're likely doing more harm than good with this habit. As much as he'd like to talk to you, I'd bet he worries that you're not getting enough sleep.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • KeepSmiling
      12 years ago

      well the thing is he gets signal spontaneously on the ship. so i can't set up a certain day or what not. he just pops up. i do spam him with messages sometimes which he highly encourages me to do so I don't think I'm alone, but I'm honestly feeling like nothing is working

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • qbe270
    12 years ago

    Just put your phone so loud that it's guaranteed to wake you up when your asleep so you don't have to wait up

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0