Is it normal that i've struck out with 15 girls in the past year?

hi! stop trying to win them over and just enjoy their company. eventually you will meet someone and there will be chemistry. if you are desperate, we will know, and that's a huge turn off. if you get to an awkward spot, direct the conversation at her - ask questions and for opinions. obviously keep it light on the first few dates.. when you offer compliments, obviously you need to slip in once that she is gorgeous/breathtaking/stunning etc.. but make the rest of the compliments about her personality. if she's insightful, funny, intelligent, exciting.. tell her! women like to know that you're not only interested in her for sex!

also yes this is very normal :)

Braaaaaah! I wish I could tell you not to sweat it, but you're right that if you want something and don't get it for a long time it can affect you emotionally. Worse, people sense when you want something, and this can make them even less likely to give it to you. There's a WHOLE lot to say on this subject. It's been studied by social psychologists and biologists who study mammalian coupling behavior. You can do the search yourself. But the bottom line is that life follows its own rules independent of what we people think should happen...

I'm a girl so can only share the perspective of girls like me. What I look for in a dude is authenticity. I like to know who the person REALLY is, and to feel that he's trustworthy. But most girls--and I'm not proud to have spent most of my life in the high dating clique--burn through guys like chewing gum because guys take it. Here's the deal. Guys want sex. Always. Girls, we like sex, too, but we aren't controlled by it nearly as much. So there's always a much, much bigger demand for girls than for guys. Guys sense this, so they chase girls. So girls, the girls guys want, at least, always have a lot of guys to choose from, and so no one guy generally comes to matter a lot to us. But even if a dude has a chick, he's still interested in getting with other chicks. No, not all, but enough. Guys, even the "taken" ones, are usually looking for a better piece.

All that means since guys chase, girls are super-picky. Supply-and-demand, like what's happening right now with the post-college job-hiring scene. Too many college graduates, tons of competition, so unethical/unfair hiring practices. It's just a generalization, and you can be sure there'll be a lot of comments about why this isn't so. But sit back and check it out yourself.

Oh, there's something else I read by this psych research team from UC Davis, I believe. They found that people are SUPER upwardly mobile--especially in dating. So people aren't generally satisfied with other people of their "rank," but look for "hotter" (or socially "superior") prospects, meaning there's a lot of dissatisfaction in the dating world because most people shoot far beyond their means. Then people gripe that no one's giving them the time of day. And yet, people aren't interested in adjusting their selection criteria back towards their own rank.

Last thing. Until Christmas I was always dating someone. Then I decided to take a break from dating. And I found nothing turns dudes on more than (a) a girl who's already dating someone else, or (b) a girl who says she's not interested in dating or hooking up. So maybe you could try taking yourself off the dating wagon for a while? You might find chicks chasing you for a change.

All of this is just my experience, brah. I hope you find what makes you happy. Good luck!

The problem? Take a bath sometimes. Problem solved. :-)

Fast forward 3 years and about to propose :-)