Is it normal that i've never had a significant relationship?

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I'm about to turn 21 and I've never had a significant relationship outside of my family before. I'm not just talking about a boyfriend; I mean any kind of friend. My friendships never last longer than a few months, and the last few people I spent any amount of time with I wouldn't consider my friends. I'm a loner, but even I realize there may be something wrong with me or my situation. I'm at the point right now where I'm starting to think I'll never find an actual friend, and dating is something I ruled out years ago, but it would be nice to find out if I'm crazy or not.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    You're intelligent, you write well, you are self-aware, and you don't seem to tend towards arrogance.

    There are a handful of people using this site that I'd probably be friends with had I encountered them in real-life as opposed to a website. You gave absolutely no reason not to be included in that list. You even used a semi colon (I've always been partial, and thought I was the only one who still used them).

    So no, you're not crazy. You just haven't found people who appreciate you. They're out there. It's just a matter of time before you bump into one.

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  • jasmine81
    12 years ago

    It may not be normal exactly but don't base your life and actions on whether or not they are the same as everyone else-you are unique and you shouldn't worry too much about being 'normal'
    If not ever having a serious relationship doesn't bother you, don't worry about it. We live in an independent time where we don't have to rely as much on other people to be happy. But if you'd like to be involved in a serious relationship, maybe become more involved. And be patient.

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    I was in a relationship for 2 years and it wasn't significant

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It may not be common (normal), per se, but all is not lost. Give it more time. You will probably meet people during your working career that you will make fast friends with. Just a warning though: Not everyone you work with is friend-material, even if they seem that way at first - be very choosy.

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  • wreckerone
    13 years ago

    It is normal to feel that way but it isnt as normal to stay in that same mind frame forever yes its hard to find good friends that you can really trust and yes they are out there its just the longer you hide in the sidelines the longer its gonna take for you to realize that thats not how things should be take charge grrrrrr =]

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    Maybe you need to put yourself out there more?

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  • huBelial
    13 years ago

    You are not crazy...

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  • thedarkside
    13 years ago

    You need to go see a therapist ASAP.

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