Is it normal that i've never had a boyfriend and never had a real job?

90% Normal

Ok so I've been thinking and it seems normal to me... but this is all I've known so I figured it'd be nice to get a different opinion... I'm 19 year old girl, a sophomore in college, and never had a boyfriend, still live with my parents, and never have had a proper job. I have done about two freelance design assignments and helped out with some day camps at a horse-back riding place near where I live but not an actual part-time/full-time job. Last summer I applied to 6-7 places hoping to earn some extra money over the summer but I was never hired. (So frustrating) I quit looking for a job when classes started because I figured I was too busy to have a job. (I'm an art major taking 15 credits and 3 of my classes are studio classes... so its not hard its just very time consuming). My parents are paying for my college right now and I am very grateful. However, I still feel guilty about not working since it seems like so many other students have to and I don't. This is also why I still live at home because housing is so expensive and I live pretty close to campus and I could avoid adding unnecessary expenses to my parents bill. I just feel so lame about this...

Onto the relationship part... I have never had a boyfriend, had my first kiss, and never been on a date. I am an average looking girl except for the part where I'm 5'3'' (I'm short... haha). I was very shy in high school but have tried to be more outgoing in college. I've been interested in guys but they haven't been interested back, and I've also had guys who were interested in me but I wasn't attracted to them in the slightest. It has just never worked out, but I can't help but feel bad about this. It also doesn't help when people my age are already getting engaged, married, and having children.

*sigh* Am I normal?

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90% Normal

Based on 20 votes (18 yes)

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RosiePosy18

12 years ago

You sound great. :) Honestly, you sound like you have everything figured out. Just from your IIN post, it looks like the only thing really missing from your life is a relationship, and they're so so so overrated! ;) Concentrate on your classes as they're so time consuming, and quit worrying, I bet you're fine as you are :) 19 is still so young!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Thank you so much! I really appreciate you reading and commenting. :]
  
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RinTin

12 years ago

Don't feel bad, you're just lucky. I wish I could have stayed with one of my parents and they pay for my college or at least my rent! =..O Keep looking if you really want to find a job to help them out. I know how you feel. I try not to ask for anything from my parents. Partly pride partly they already have stuff to deal with. Try walking into a place and asking if they're hiring at the moment or when they might be hiring in the future. Some places hire a few extra people during holidays so keep a look out for that.

IMO it's easier to meet guys at work if you're shy so that would be a plus :D...I didn't go to college though..I took online classes haha. You're only 19 anyways.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Thanks for the advice and for reading. :] I'll definitely start up the job search again.
  
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dfsq

12 years ago

Me too and I'm 19 as well. I just hate working so much, I can't get past a week.

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NeuroNeptunian

12 years ago

Sounds pretty normal to me.

I only work because I have to pay the bills. I could live at home but I don't want to be at the mercy of people who are mentally unstable. I spent the first 18 years of my life doing it and I ain't going back to it. I'd trade places with you in a heartbeat, trust me, it's no fun being THIS BUSY all of the time.

Most of your fellow students would trade places with you in a heartbeat too. Your parents worked hard so that you wouldn't have to work as hard as people like me, whose parents decided "derp collge 4 pussiez les reproduc". Life just works out like that sometimes.

You only need to feel ashamed if you are ungrateful or disrupting class. You have no idea how fucking much it pisses me off to be the person I am, working through college, trying to make ends meet and not going to fuck up my chances of getting a job in which I can afford a decent place to live and a car that won't break down on me and food that ain't in a can and here I am sitting next to some asshole whose Mommy and Daddy coddled him all his fucking life and he has a part time job doing paperwork at his Daddy's law firm but nothing is expected of him so he just texts the whole time, and he sits there making snide comments at everyone because no matter how he behaves in class, he'll never have to worry about being evicted from the one apartment that would accept a 20 year old with hardly a credit history.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  I'm very grateful and definitely do not disturb class! Well my intention is to not disturb class... I can't help when I forget to turn my phone on silent. >_< But I agree with you on the people that just go and goof off. They are very annoying.
  
  Thanks for reading and commenting!
  
  P.S. I wish you luck with your busy life! I hope it calms down soon!
  
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Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat

12 years ago

Haha, so there have been guys that have been interested in you but you blew them off because you werent "interested" but here you are not even getting to go out on a date or even had a first kiss. You made it sound like nobody has ever even approached you. Poor you.

Not working either, aww poor you again, you looked everywhere but couldnt find the "perfect" job I bet. Here is a clue dumbass, the "perfect" job is the one that hires you.

I should have stopped reading when you mentioned being an art major. But like the accident at the side of the road I just couldnt look away.

Good luck getting a job in "art". Haha

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  So you're saying I should have wasted not only my time, but the guy's time as well and lead him on, only to break their hearts later? Yes, that's so much better.
  
  Also its such a shame you couldn't have phrased your comment in a constructive way. Calling me a "dumbass" isn't exactly going to help me. All it's going to make me do is think of you as the dumb one.
  
  And ya never know... There are some horrific designs out there and people will pay big bucks to get their product to look good and sell. :P
  
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  - Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat
    
    12 years ago
    
    Aww again poor you, the only guys you get attention from are the ones you arent attracted to, what can we do to help? Try running into a brick wall face first a couple times then maybe you will realize looks arent as important as you seem to make them out to be.
    
    Sorry about the dumbass quote, how about ignoramus? Does that work better?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      You obviously didn't get what I meant and arguing with you is like arguing with a brick wall. Goodbye.
      
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      - Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat
        
        12 years ago
        
        Wait a sec here, are you calling me a brick wall??
        
        ARE YOU?
        
        Well I never.
        
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- psm45
  
  12 years ago
  
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