Is it normal that i've never been kissed or been asked on a date?

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I am a nearly 19 year old female. I've never been kissed, gone on a date (or even been asked to go on one), or been shown any type of interest or affection from guys.I know, I know, everyone has their time and we're all different...but doesn't something seem wrong here? I'm not unattractive...I'm an intelligent blonde haired, blue eyed, 5'6", 115 lb girl with a good personality and sense of humor. So can someone please explain to me why I feel like the most repulsive creature on the planet?? It's really taken a toll on my confidence that I've never been pursued by anyone. Any advice?

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    I know so many gorgeous intelligent never been kissed ladies. Guys are intimidated.

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  • Kate!
    12 years ago

    Guys shouldn't define your confidence. I get where you are coming from with this but you already said it your self there is nothing seriously wrong with you so why try to find a reason?

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    • chezycheze
      12 years ago

      I agree.

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    I dont know you well enough to truely give you an opinion...it could be shyness/ self esteem ....but I cant say without knowing you....you may also exhibit certain body language that says stay away, etc...

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  • Wuggums47
    10 years ago

    I'm pretty much the same, except I have obvious problems, and have actually been asked on dates. I just never liked the person. To be fair, all of the people who have asked me out are people I could never be with. Only the nut jobs and kids ask me out. I even had someone ask me out, nothing seemed wrong with them, but I had a feeling and declined. I later found out she believes she's a vampire. 100%, not even sort of ironically.

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  • livelove12
    12 years ago

    Same here

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  • Short&2thepoint
    12 years ago

    I agree with Momonator, Shyness is a serioius problem, and they probably don't think that they're worth it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I'd like to give you some advice, but your post was kind of inconclusive. You seem to have a nice personality though, thats always a huge positive :)

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  • pantaloonz
    12 years ago

    Grab a fake ID, hit a local college bar. Problem solved.

    -Pantz

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  • themorgan239
    12 years ago

    Chezy:
    Of course I want a meaningful relationship, but I feel like I've missed out on a lot of what the teenage years are about. I feel like I'm lacking the experience of failed relationships and flings that are necessary learning experiences for having a successful (serious) relationship.

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    • dappled
      12 years ago

      You can have failed relationships and flings at any age. A friend of mine didn't kiss anyone until she was 20. And she's blonde, tall, clever, funny, quirky and pretty.

      Seven years on, and she's quite the vixen now. She just needed to let her guard down and let that first one through. She also had to change her expectations a little.

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  • Nolan3200
    12 years ago

    I'm the exact same as you except male. It's quite a horrible feeling...

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  • chezycheze
    12 years ago

    Well you sound very pretty. Anyways, idk it just happens that way sometimes. Don't let it take a toll on your confidence, i mean, there will always be guys who think your pretty and guys who don't and your confidence is really important.

    But I'm wondering, what do you expect and what do you want? Like, if you just want to go out with some random guy then it can be easy to accomplish but if your looking for someone that you will have a meaningful relationship with that you like, then you gotta do some looking yourself. Its always helpful to start conversations and be friendly with people.

    Anyways, I'm an 18 year old boy and I'm not very successful with meeting girls. An answer to my question would be very helpful.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    The guys who did have a crush on you and found you beautiful were too shy to ask you out because they were scared of being rejected. Keep your eyes opened, you might notice. Good luck.

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