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I've known this man for 3 years now and I've started to notice that I've grown to be attracted to him. He's sweet, caring, intelligent, and damn sexy for his age. He's 50 and I'm 20...
My girl is 42 years my junior, so I'd be the last one on IIN to say it's bad or wrong.
Should you act on your feelings, be forewarned that you will encounter a lot of flack, from her family, friends on both sides and perfect strangers whose business it isn't, anyway.
But if our relationship is any basis for comparison, you could be headed down a road to the easiest relationship you'll ever have.
Older guys are going to be much more patient, loving and much less interested in risking a good relationship for a bit of strange, here and there. They have more time and money to devote to a relationship as, supposedly, they are financially more secure than a younger man and more accomplished in their profession (no longer striving to "get ahead").
The one major problem in these relationships is jealousy, of course. If he is feeling insecure, he may worry that you want a younger man, etc. but you can learn to support him so he feels secure and avoid this pitfall.
Lastly, as my girl and I discussed early in the relationship, till death do us part is indeed the eventual termination of this relationship and I have made my girl promise to travel, party and celebrate my life, not mourn my passing, when the time comes.
I'm the lucky one; I'll not be alone when I die, but pass in the arms of my loving gal.
I should say thank you to the mature people who gave realistic advice. To the fucktards who like to make a mockery of this site for the people with legit questions, here's a big "FUCK YOU!". People need to take their shit elsewhere -_-
Case in point, "perfect strangers whose business it isn't, anyway."; see post by asshole who calls himself dad.
What a jerk.
Anyway, it's all been said before by others on IIN and even nastier. I always credit that sort of stupid post to guys with tiny dicks that couldn't get laid in a whore house!
You will have to take shit like that, a lot, but if you can see that only a looser would make such ugly comments, then you'll be OK.
But it is the price of this sort of relationship, sorry.
Sounds normal to me. I'm in my 40's and girls of all ages are into me :)
Only a few and none lately (by choice).
I've got a list of many teen girls that want it but so far I haven't done anything to get em yet. I don't really care because I'm trying to focus on making more money.
And in case you're wondering, ONLY THE LEGAL ONES!
I know, sadness but I don't break the law :(
Men over 40 tend to be generally more stable than their younger peers. By that time they have accumulated assets, probably own their own house, one or two cars, or own a business and are in a better position to support a family than say, 20 something college grads with nothing other than mortgaged sized student debt to their names.
If your desire is to start a family and enjoy the stability and support an older man can provide in exchange for the promise of your companionship during the remainder of his 'peak' years, then you should go for it.
Personally, I am at the opposite end of this spectrum; I will take up a well aged cougar in a heartbeat over a woman under 21. However, if she has no job, still lives with mom and dad, or is a section 8 professional caretaker, then it is out the question no matter her age or how good she looks.
Thanks for all the replies xD some were actually helpful. Of course, the person "Dad" seems to be quite the jackass...other than that, though, I appreciate the insight :)
It's normal to be attracted. Some day you will be that age, so hopefully you will find your partner attractive then. But you will have other people who spark your interest, so just appreciate him from afar and assume somebody close to your age will work out better. In the long term it will be better.