Is it normal that i've always wanted to do it with an older man?

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Okay so I've had a boyfriend for about a year & a half now & we were eachother a first. Our sex life is awesome but I've always always always wanted to have sex with an older man. I'm 20. I even look at porn with old men & wish it was me they were having sex with. I've never told anyone this because obviously, I will be judged. I would love to be intimate with a 40-55 year old man, it's even on my bucket list. I feel so weird that I feel this way though. Like I said, I love my boyfriend but I just can't help this feeling. Even thinking about it turns me on. Help!! :(

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  • borntobeme
    8 years ago

    As a man in my 70's, I recently met a 24 year old woman that was being evicted from her apartment. She had come to work for me to clean my apartment. She thanked me for the pay I gave and mentioned she had to find a place to live. I offered her my 2nd bedroom. She accepted and we discussed that she could pay for her room by having sex with me. We now have sex at least twice a week, and are living a very happy life together. She finally told me that she preferred doing me to some of her ex boyfriends, because I truly appreciate her young firm body, and always, always eat her pussy till she orgasm's.

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    • caligurl567
      8 years ago

      That sounds amazing. I'm jealous

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      • borntobeme
        8 years ago

        My 25 year old live in had a boy friend that was abusive and crude to her when I first met her. Since I offered her protection and security, and am helping her with some medical issues, I have met her mother, who told me that I might well have saved her life. Last night as she was sucking my cock, she looked up and said "I love you, Old Man". I immediately shot my load. She sucked me dry and tipped her beautiful head back as I bent down and kissed her, sucking some of my cum from her mouth.

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        • caligurl567
          8 years ago

          Wow. I'm super jealous.

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  • Charli.m.s_Never_Ending_Period
    8 years ago

    Your fantasies are telling you you're not ready for monogamy. Be ethical about it. Slowly break it off with the boyfriend first, then hunt down your older man. In this way, you won't spend the rest of your life thinking about what you missed.

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    • caligurl567
      8 years ago

      I don't know if I'm ready for that.

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      • Charli.m.s_Never_Ending_Period
        8 years ago

        Either you go for it, or you'll think about it forever.

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  • klebo
    8 years ago

    Hi how are you doing?

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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago

    I am 54 years old and fit your description perfectly. I would be more than happy to oblige you with your fantasy, no strings attached!

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    • caligurl567
      8 years ago

      Really?!

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  • bigol'dick
    8 years ago

    Sometimes I want to do it with older men. Sometimes I want to do it with younger men.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Have you ever done it?

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      • bigol'dick
        8 years ago

        Sure have!

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        • caligurl567
          8 years ago

          How was it?

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  • klebo
    8 years ago

    Fantasy are fantasy, I would love to do a 18-25 year old to fuck, will it happen, no,just a fantasy, many have rape fantasy, none of them never want to be raped, just fantasy, share it with BF be open with each other about them,maybe role play with it

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    • KingTermite
      8 years ago

      Doesn't need to be a fantasy, there are even places where the age of consent is less than 18, and without admitting to anything I can assure you it doesn't need to be a fantasy.

      I doubt her bf can roleplay an older guy effectively.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Serious question.

    Do you have intimacy issues with your dad?

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    • caligurl567
      8 years ago

      Not at all.

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      • KingTermite
        8 years ago

        While that is semi-common with women that have this desire, it's not always the case, sometimes they just want to have a lover that knows where all the controls are. Some older guys aren't any better at getting a woman off when they're in their 30's, 40's, or 50's than they were when they were 20.

        I think a better question would be: Does her bf satisfy her sexually? If you can masturbate yourself to a better orgasm than you can get with your partner, you're probably with the wrong person, at least sexually speaking. It's also very difficult to get guys to improve their technique because their ego gets in the way.

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        • klebo
          8 years ago

          Everything was well said ,but one thing I need to correct, not all guys have egos,bit the sexual partners don't communicate what they like with each other, we need to be open at saying the things they do very well and say the things that don't feel right,just be open with one another, one thing I make a rule (I am a guy) I don't cum till she is satisfied, so I will eat her pussy till she Beggs me to cum up and fuck her

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          • KingTermite
            8 years ago

            Sure, not all guys, but most, and especially the younger ones. I agree that if you're plan is to stay with a person for the duration of your life you should be completely honest. Then, if there's an incompatibility you can either work around it, or end the relationship and begin the search anew. But if you're not decided on trying to stay with them forever, and I would highly discourage anyone in their 20's to stay with the first person they have ever had sex with, unless you know you've got exactly what you want, and how can one know that if you haven't tried the other things that are out there?

            Sophisticated people, with a lot of sexual experience can often not have their relationships withstand such wants/needs as the OP has stated. It's not every couple that can even handle the idea of threesomes, and many that think they can find out in retrospect that it was a bad idea for them. Being so young and inexperienced, I honestly think she should either cut the current bf loose (if that's a moral imperative), or just go try out her fantasy without him knowing. She said it's a bucket list item, so it pretty much has to be done, one way or another.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Wow thats nuts

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Shouldn't really be that difficult to arrange. Your bf doesn't even need to know. Good luck.

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    • caligurl567
      8 years ago

      I could never do that to him.

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      • KingTermite
        8 years ago

        Why not? You're not married and if your bf was your first, and you were his you probably have no idea what you're missing out on. Seriously, many younger guys have little to no idea how to pleasure a woman. Now, of course, you could find an older loser (I know guys in their 50's that never learned how to bring a woman to orgasm with their tongue or their cock, it's all about them getting off, I know this from speaking with their wives after I've given them multiple screaming orgasms), but it shouldn't be that difficult to screen out the real bad ones.

        If this is a bucket list item, how will you ever achieve it if you never pull the trigger on this fantasy.

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        • klebo
          8 years ago

          Once she tells him her fantasy he will gain her trust and they have a threesome with an older guy

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          • KingTermite
            8 years ago

            Perhaps, but unlikely. Most guys, especially one in their 20's are too insecure to have threesomes with another man involved. Even broaching the subject could be a really bad idea, because if he doesn't want to, and she agrees not to do it, it will always be in the back of his mind.

            And in your 20's you're too young to limit yourself to one partner, especially the only one you've ever been with. It would be like trying vanilla ice cream and then never trying another flavor... who would do that?

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            • caligurl567
              8 years ago

              My boyfriend does fulfill my needs.. Especially sexually. Of course I've only slept with him so what do I know? But he's the same way. He won't cum until I do first & he will do everything to get me right at my climax before he fucks me. & believe me, it's amazing. But an older guy for some reason has always been on my mind. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, that's not even an option. I'm not cheating on him either nor am I going to tell him about my fantasies. I'm just gonna have to wait it out I guess. It's not about me being in my 20's & not sticking to one person, it's about loving someone & not wanting to let them go. I'm 20, I don't know if I will marry my boyfriend, I would definitely not mind but you never know. It's a fantasy waiting to be a reality. ;)

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