Is it normal that i've accepted being gay but still hate being gay?

Many don't like that they're gay and that is why they attend those camps to help "correct" themselves. You are who you are, I'm sure you'll make peace with it someday.

We all have a certain degree of self-loathing we have to come to terms with. Gay doesn't have to define you, anymore than your race, gender, or looks.

I don't take pride in the fact that I'm a straight female. It just is what it is. I don't have to rave about it or feel pride for it, in order to be content with it.

It's never healthy to hate yourself OR to be narcissistic and overly impressed with yourself. Try to find a middle ground. It's your personality that defines you...

Not who/what you like to bang. Focus less on what sex you're attracted to, and find contentment in the qualities that make you a decent human being... Because the rest is just totally irrelevant bullshit.

Let's face it: If you're gay, you're probably having to deal with a lot of crap that straight guys don't have to deal with. Life is harder for you than it would be. It makes sense you might still hate it even if you don't deny it anymore.

But, ask yourself: What do I really hate--do I hate being gay; or do I hate the way people treat me and the awkwardness and sometimes outright hostility? If being gay were a non-issue, at the level of being right-handed or brown-eyed, would I still hate it? 'Cause I'm betting that it's not being gay you hate; it's the way the whole world is still all awkward and occasionally hateful about it.

I used to hate being gay. I'm just apathetic to it now. I think what you mean OP (and correct me if I'm wrong) is that you hate all the baggage that comes with being gay. You hate that people are prejudiced against you. You hate all the fucking hoopla around homosexual issues. You hate how other gays call attention to there sexuality. Being gay is like having brown eyes and I'm guessing you find being proud of brown eyes a ridiculous thing and hate being associated with such prideful people. There is a reason that pride is one of the 7 deadly sins. Any sane person would want there situation to be different and the easiest thing to correct this is to wish to be straight rather than wish the world different.

As has been said, it's probably not being gay you hate but the way people treat you. I'm sure you'll come to terms with it; you kind of have to 'cause you can't change who you are.
Maybe try talking to some people about it, maybe go to a therapy session because this could quickly become a self-loathing issue and that's not a healthy mentality to have.
Good luck to you.

I think that you could possibly go to one of those camps, "if YOU decided" that is what you want to do, and try it out with the ladies. but you should follow your heart, and feel comfortable for who you are, being gay is nothing to be ashamed of, and it is widely accepted these days.

Like I say though, try everything once, you'll figure it out.

Hope it all works out for you.

Im a gay lad,live in england where it is widely accepted. I came out when i was 22 and everyone was shocked coz i dont look, act or sound gay and i have never had any homophobia abuse but i feel ya coz i also hate it, iv accepted it but life wud be easier if i was straight. All ya can do is keep moving bro

please, please ignore the people who are saying to go to those camps. They don't "cure" gay-ness, they just push you back into the closet.

Well, I hate being straight. Women cause me to hate my heterosexuality. You, my friend have a much taller order than I. My hat is off to you. However, we are both stuck!

look at girls start with shemales if you have to and work up to girls and be bi-sexual it will be easier on you in the long run and a little more acceptable these days too

If you've 'accepted' being gay but hate it then IMO you haven't accepted it at all. It isn't normal for straight people to hate being straight so why should you hate being gay? Perhaps you have self esteem issues that aren't actually in relation to your sexuality at all? Perhaps you just don't like being you?

I'm Gay, and I hated it for a long time, mainly because I am a Christian and it's hardly the right thing to be in the opinions of some Christians, but these days I'm happy with my girlfriend and in time I'm sure you'll accept and be happy with yourself, gay, straight or bi, just be happy x

What you're saying isn't possible. To accept being gay is to like it. You can't hate being gay and say that you've accepted it. That's not how it works. However, you could accept yourself and hate other gays, many men feel like that. Just because you might be out of the closet doesn't mean you've accepted being gay.. it only means that you've told others a fact about yourself... whether you believe that fact is true or not has no relevance to whether or not you told people.

That's unfortunate you should not feel that way.

I would say it is as normal as being untruth to ourselves. Once you discovered that you are gay, treating it like a bad thing will only make you a restrained and unhappy person. Maybe you should consider try to undestand the things that you really hate about it and work them out to fit your own lifestyle and beliefs.

I think many people get confused about this pride thing too. For me, gay pride has nothing to do with the identification with some hype/cool group of friends, but to assume that my own values and thoughts are worth and equal of full respect, as anyone else's. The sort of feeling that comes to life when you walk in the street with hands given to your very own beloved, and discover yourselves both provoqued and cursed by other people you don't even know. Or might get attacked physically. In many countries, being gay doesn't help you calling for the police assistance if you're attacked, this may even be considered as a crime confession. It really sucks, but many changes have happened in the recent past years. in the end, what choices do we have if not to fight against it, for a better and more equal world...?

Just give it time. When you realise it's as inconsequential as your eye colour or job you will settle into a deeper level of acceptance.

I'd hazard a guess most gay people are not into parading themselves around "pride" festivals. I wouldn't say I'm proud of being gay but I'm not ashamed. It's just one aspect of me!!! It's a non-issue.

Also it's no-one else's business to tell you how you're supposed to act if you're gay. In fact it's no-one else's business in knowing whether or not you're gay. It is an empty issue until it comes to romantic/sexual relationships. That's the only time it should crop up in passing.

Try sleeping with the opposite sex... Just to be sure

agreed with all the comments about how maybe its peoples reactions you hate. however i think gay camps are a RIDICULOUS idea, are you people STUPID! being gay is not a lifestyle choice, going to a homophobic camp where they brain wash you into being straight won't help you, if you are gay then that is who you are, a camp wont change that.

You should love yourself regardless what other people think. No matter how you live your life people are always going to have something to say. I'm bisexual myself it is a hard struggle but you have to accept who you are.

Op how recently have you come out to society and to yourself? Do you live in area that is more judgmental than other places?

I hate your gay too!!

Its called bipolar get a life bitch.