Is it normal that i try to keep close to a guy i dump?

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everytime i break up with a guy i dont want to lose them as a friend. every guy ive dated ive been close with first. i was friends with them before i dated them so why should i lose that friendship just because we are no longer together? i hate not texting them or saying hi at school. is it normal that just cuz i dont wanna date them doesnt mean i dont want them around?

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    You seem like an ice queen. Men have feelings. They need space after a relationship especially if they're the dumpee.

    Also people normally get special attention when they date. I was never a major texter but my ex begged and pleaded and said it was important so I ended up texting him every day. He dumps me. I revert to my normal self and get a "How come you don't text me to ask how my day was?" Get used to the lack of attention.

    It's okay that you still want to maintain a friendship just be careful how you go about that.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    I don't blame them for not wanting to talk anymore.

    "Everytime i break up with a guy.."

    Yeah, seems like you go through guys like it's no biggy. Not normal. NEXT STORY please...

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    • loveslost
      12 years ago

      well yes i do but thats cuz i cant do comitment and i always tell a guy that in the begining so they have fair warning

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  • TrentLovesCats
    12 years ago

    maybe i'm biased because im a guy, but i don't TRY to be friends with someone i used to date. i usually never want to see them again. f*ck friendship.

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  • LethalRainbows
    12 years ago

    If I break up with someone I always at least TRY to be friends with them at least. If it doesn't work oh well; if the circumstances were too great for us to try and be friend then I won't, but I at least try and keep intact the friendship. I'm almost friends with all my exs. I don't really see what's the problem with it if anyone else has one. They were friends before, why can't they be friends after? I say it's normal.

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    • loveslost
      12 years ago

      thank you!

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    You need to understand that even though it might be easy for you to move on, some guys will certainly have a hard time getting over residual feelings. It's really hard to go from a relationship to friends just like that, most guys need time and space to heal.

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