Is it normal that i try monitor my girlfriend's every move?

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Well let me tell you this my girlfriend doesn't want to talk to me anymore because I message her all time (creating new accounts), try to monitor her every move, become jealous when she hangs out with friends (especially boys), and as a result I feel like that I screwed up yet again because I didn't recover from my breakup last year with my ex (because of me doing the same thing) and not only that but I've already tried talking to other girls but that didn't work out at all! Is there something wrong with me?

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  • megadriver
    5 years ago | pl

    Are you the same muppet that put spy cameras in the bathroom to monitor your girlfriend's water usage...

    If so, I applaud the girl for being persistent, if I were a girl, I would have kicked your ass and left a long time ago XD

    And yes, there is a lot of wrong with you... Being a control obsessed dork is not normal. Stop being a creep and let your girlfriend breathe. A bit of jealousy is normal, but you are the type of guy, who's girlfriend I would flirt with outrageously, just to piss you off. Stop it! Do other things with your life. You will never have a functioning relationship if you keep this up...

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  • Columbusbiguy
    5 years ago

    Completely normal for a controlling psychopath. Grow up or get some mental health help.

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  • Nicole20
    5 years ago

    Not normal, yes you're not right in the head and probably should seek help.

    No girl should be anywhere near you until you've had years of mental health counseling.

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    • juantheman1996
      5 years ago

      I tried peer support and I'm plan on pulling out because it has done nothing to help me

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      • Nicole20
        5 years ago

        Time for shock therapy then.

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        • juantheman1996
          5 years ago

          What's shock therapy gonna do? Not a damn thing! You don't scare me at all!

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          • Nicole20
            5 years ago

            I'm not trying to scare you. You need help.

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            • [Old Memory]
              5 years ago

              People can only receive help if they want help.

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  • DaddySaidStayAwayFromJuliet
    5 years ago

    Yes there is something wrong with you.
    You have no trust, you sound controlling and fucking horrible.
    Isolation & trying to control what they do and say is one of the first things a potential abuser will do to their partner. Hopefully she leaves your ass.

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    • juantheman1996
      5 years ago

      See that's what my biological grandfather did to my grandmother and I'm feel like I'm following in his footsteps! And I don't want that! And I hope you get punched in the face if you keep talking shit and that goes for everybody!

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        5 years ago | pl

        If you realize you're abusive, then stop doing it.

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      • Boojum
        5 years ago

        So, on the one hand, you have enough insight to understand that your behaviour has negative consequences, but you also believe that everyone who says that your behaviour is creepy, manipulative, and controlling is talking shit?

        You're either a troll or you have highly disordered thought patterns, and you're capable of believing two contradictory things at the same time.

        It's hardly surprising that peer support is doing nothing for you. Nobody else can make you change your behaviour, Wishing violence on those who point our your problems just confirms that you have them.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Are you sure she's actually your girlfriend?

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    • juantheman1996
      5 years ago

      Yes

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      • IrishPotato
        5 years ago

        Does she agree?

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        • juantheman1996
          5 years ago

          Yes

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          • IrishPotato
            5 years ago

            You sure about that?

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    You weren't monitoring effectively enough. I've been fucking your girlfriend every night for the last year. Do better.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    What you really need to do is to take a break from dating entirely, and seek out some psychiatric help.

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  • WarriorGene
    5 years ago

    I think you need some help and that you are wrong in your behaviour, but I also hate all these offended snowflakes who talk so much trash about how bad you are.

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    • juantheman1996
      5 years ago

      Me too they're just motherfucking bastards I just want to rebuild my relationship with her and have her forgive me I'm not a bad person at all I just have issues

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      • Nicole20
        5 years ago

        Well I saw you have aspergers so you must realize you have limited understanding of personal boundaries.

        I can understand why you're like that, if you do have it, but I don't understand how you know it's wrong, and choose not to do anything about it.

        You need to take control of your life. Having aspergers isn't a get out of jail free card.

        As you get older, people will have even less tolerance for your behavior, and you will find yourself very alone.

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      • Boojum
        5 years ago

        I'm sure Jeffrey Dahmer would have said he had issues too.

        Considering what you admit doing, your girlfriend would be incredibly stupid to have anything more to do with anyone who behaves as you do.

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  • Maniac_Squid
    5 years ago

    Get help, leave her alone. No one likes that. That desperation isn't hot. It's desperate, and nothing more. Let her be, and stop trying to contact her. Also, stop calling her your girlfriend. She obviously isn't.

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    • juantheman1996
      5 years ago

      You don't know that she's girlfriend because you don't know her!

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      • Maniac_Squid
        5 years ago

        Well she can't be if she's literally trying to get away from him

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  • Meatballsandwich
    5 years ago

    Every breath you take
    every move you make.
    Every bond you break
    every step you take
    I'll be watching you.

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  • Ummitsstillme
    5 years ago

    Fyi,the celebrities you stalk aren't your girlfriends.

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  • ELCNU
    5 years ago

    If she's cheating on you, the relation ship will end, as it will need to. Have some trust, and if she proves not worthy, so be it.

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  • Issacelerx
    5 years ago

    I wouldn't say there is something wrong with you, but I'd just put it down to something as Paranoia. I think that's all it is, you need to calm down and think about the good things instead of worrying about what your Girlfriend is doing with friends. Mostly' they are just doing things that friends would do; not what you think they are doing. If you have trust issues, I would advise you talk to someone or your Girlfriend about them even though she doesn't want to speak to you.

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  • BlindSpot
    5 years ago

    You should consider becoming an eunuch. No woman deserves to have an obsessive controlling bastard in their lives.

    You need to find out what has made you this way. Were you let down before in life? Had a partner who cheated on you? Did your dad abuse your mum in the same way? Are you possessive in general?

    Think about these things and consciously attempt to recognise when you are getting out of hand. Make sure to apologise for this behaviour and learn to let go in life and try to stop being so pessimistic. Live life and relationships with positivity and it will return to you, and if it doesn't, it's a sign you need to move on and better things will be on their way.

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    • juantheman1996
      5 years ago

      Yeah you're right I want to visit her and apologize to her and her family in person

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      • BlindSpot
        5 years ago

        Don't. If you'll are over, just stay out of her life for good. Send a once off message to apologise. The biggest apology would be to leave her in peace.

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        • juantheman1996
          5 years ago

          It's the only way to fix things and plus I haven't seen her in person since I graduated with her back in 2015 and when I meet her in person I want to be as personal as I can to her yes I still have feelings for her

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          • BlindSpot
            5 years ago

            It's not the way to fix things because clearly you only want to get close to her because you still have feelings for her and you want to get back into her life or see her again because this is a part of your obsessive behaviour. My goodness, it's been so long ago and you're still obsessing over her... leave her alone to move on. I suggested apologising to your current gf, not your ex. Leave the past in the past and focus on improving yourself and your obsessive behaviour. That includes: Stop chasing women.

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            • juantheman1996
              5 years ago

              I wasn't talking about my ex girlfriend dumbass I was talking about my current one and going to apologize to my current girlfriend in person not my ex and I'm not "chasing" girls so don't put words in my mouth

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  • Indigo1
    5 years ago

    It can be normal to feel to fall into jealousy from time to time, but i think most would agree this would be taking it too far. sometimes people do these things out of love because they are worried they will lose what they love , but in the process end up causing it, it's healthy to give space to your gf , and can often work wonders when you play just ever so slightly "hard to get" every now and again, don't make her feel like she has you on a leash and that you're so obsessed with her that you'll invade her privacy and not trust her.

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