Is it normal that i track my boyfriend without him knowing?

Okay... So I know I sound like a crazy bitch girlfriend, but hear me out. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and recently I found texts on his phone of him flirting with another girl. Needless to say, I was pissed and read him the riot act and seriously considered breaking it off. The thing is that I have screwed up in this relationship too, and he forgave me, so I decided to give him a second chance. In any case... After I found out that he'd been doing that, my trust for him went completely down... And I remembered that he showed me this app on his iPhone called "Find my iPhone" where you can track your phone to see where it is if you lost it, etc. He gave me his username and password to see if it would work, and I remembered it. So I've essentially been doing it all the time to see where he is and if he's lying or anything. I know it sounds crazy but tonight he said he was working in one town but he was on his way completely out of the way. I told him I knew he was lying but I didn't tell him how, and he's just playing dumb. It's no big deal because I know he's with his cousin, but it's still really bothering me that he would lie in the first place about it.. I want to bring it up, but I don't want him to get mad that I've been doing this. So... Is it normal? And how should I bring this up to him?

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46% Normal
Based on 90 votes (41 yes)
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  • chatter289

    I absolutely LOVE all the bullshit hypocrites in here who so innocently claim that they would NEVER go through their loved ones phone. Curiosity was build in our DNA its a defense mechanism build in each and everyone one of us to protect ourselves.

    When we are in doubt we question things, we go out of our way to find out the problem and this scenario is no different. If trust is broken then it is understandable that we have the 'nack' so to speak to be curious about what our other loved one is up to.

    If you were in a relationships and your other half did something and you 'forgave' them you're still going to be on guard from then on. You may 'forgive' but you sure as hell don't forget!

    I don't blame you for doing what you are, but it is not good for your mental state or the relationship. If i were you i would have a nice sit down with him and talk. Ask him why he has the necessity to lie about small stupid things, try and see if you can find an alternative example rather the one stated above, that way you can slowly integrate them together and so forth.

    Good luck xx

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  • Antares

    ... Right. I'm not gonna judge you because you're insecure, so don't worry. Insecurity does not equal to crazy. I think I can emphatize.

    Sorry to break your heart, woman, but all signs pretty much scream GUILTY.

    I wouldn't omit the possibility that he's getting it on with his cousin - there is just something sexy about having an affair with a family member, not for the majority men, but definitely there are people who have this fantasy.

    Flirting does not mean cheating. Well not in my terms. It's a way some peeps follow when they feel the need to feel prime, like, "Oh wow there are others who find me hot/sexy/beautiful/attractive besides my partner." It's all about inflating the ego. But lying? Not cool.

    The relationship won't workout. I've seen way too many relationships like that fall out of place. Broken trust, major insecurity issues, endless deceit, paranoia, involuntary lying.

    You can give it one last shot by discussing about it with him. If it fails, it fails. If he collects himself and stop being such a pric- thorn in the flesh, then good for you.

    Love comes in all sorts, but the most important thing is self-appreciation. Girls or guys alike should never let others trample all over their hearts freely.

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  • pem24

    Paranoia is normal for someone who first committed the crime.

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  • joybird

    If you tell him he will change his password.

    Anyway, you're flogging a dead horse. If you have both cheated so early in the relationship you're better getting out of it before you fall in love and get really hurt! If you can't trust him there is no future - and he does lie to you too!

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  • TyLee

    Since your boyfriend is a cheater it is normal. I would just end it now. No trust equals a bad relationship.

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  • Andy20.

    Not normal

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  • Andy20.

    When I date people I don't go through there phone I trust them until i catch them and no one but me will know my own password and I wouldn't never let any girl see my phone because it's there's not ur

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  • Andy20.

    And I were ever he goes is his business u would drive me nuts by the way I don't cheat or lie

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  • Andy20.

    Y are u going through "His PHONE" that's wrong 2 that shows u can't trust him by the way

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  • karmasAbich

    What is wrong with you?

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