Is it normal that i took a friend of mine in?

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Allow me to explain. A friend of mine was kicked out by her mother around early June. After she was kicked out, my friend came looking for me. She explained to me that she was kicked out of her house and that she wanted to run away from home to her mother in another state (she's adopted I believe, she wanted to run to her birth mother). I told her that I'd help her regardless of her decision and she did try to run, but she did not succeed. She's been staying at her house close to me but recently, she told me she was kicked out yet again. I told her that she could stay with me if she ever felt it was necessary. My room is in the basement of my grandparent's house, so her and I go through the backyard to get into my room (door to the basement from the back). I don't want to bring her through the front door because my grandparents would obviously be suspicious, nor do I think they would like it if I said I was having someone stay with me in their house. I just want to help her because no one else seems to want to; I always want to help people and when it comes to close friends like this, I was heartbroken when I heard she had no one else to turn to. Tell me, is it normal that I am protecting and helping my runaway friend, w/o my grandparents permission even though it's their house?

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  • XiaoLou
    11 years ago

    I'd do the same thing if I was in your shoes.

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  • Wüstenfuchs
    11 years ago

    After ending up homeless on the streets of Riverside, CA, I caught a lucky break and, not going into much detail to save face, I was given a plane flight home. But, I used it instead to go to Northern CA to live with a childhood friend. And his mom is an ex-peacekeeper, and explained it to me, but she contacted my parents and let them know I was living under her roof. I don't remember all the details, but I do remember she had to have an agreement with my family to protect herself. If my parents disagreed, I was to be shipped home. Luckily, they agreed. But living with them made me feel like I was a mooch, and I eventually ran away from their home, too. Ended up in San Diego living with my now future wifey. :O I guess I could count myself lucky after all of that. But I tend to try not to think about it much... Although there are a lot of funny stories about all that experience. Well, "funny", I guess. xP

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  • Wüstenfuchs
    11 years ago

    I was a runaway. <_<

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      What happened?

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  • Wüstenfuchs
    11 years ago

    You should tell your grandparents, because if her parents should ever decide to take legal action, your grandparents are still liable. If they agree to take her in, they have to set it up with her parents to protect themselves. o.O

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    For me this is normal. I currently have a homeless friend squatting in my backyard. But you should talk to your grandparents about it, they have the right to know who's staying in their house. And I wish your friend good luck, sometimes life sucks.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yeah, life does have it's ups and downs. In her case though, I want to be there for her whenever she needs someone to be there. I know how much it sucks needing someone and having no one to turn to.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I can definitely understand why you're doing it. She's your friend, you're looking out for her. What's your plan, though? Is this a long term solution? If so, then that might be a problem. I don't know what advice I can give you because I've never been in a situation like this. I think it would be a good idea to look for something more stable for her. Do you plan on talking to your grandparents about this?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Well, I told her that I would help her work something out so that she can find a better place to stay whenever she thinks she wants to move on and stay somewhere else. Thing is though is that I refuse to just let her go and stay with anyone - if she's going to go and move in somewhere else, I want to make sure that she's going to the right person to care for her; like I do. I want her to go to someone somewhere who can act like a legitimate parent to her.

      I do agree, yes, it probably should tell my grandparents but you see I know that they wouldn't agree with it. They'd come up with some ridiculous excuse and tell me that she has to go and I'd feel horrible knowing she'd have to go so of course I'd defend her and it'd start a huge issue I really don't want to start.

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    • shuggy-chan
      11 years ago

      yeah im curious as well, it important you guy hash out a plan

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