Is it normal that i think women care about looks as much as men?

This is not a shallow question. When you meet someone the first time you make instant judgements of that person. The only thing you can infer in the first 10 seconds is how he/she looks. We all have a type and guys often forget that she’s looking at us the same way we do to her, physically speaking. Love at first sight is real and you don’t even know their personality.

If you’re getting turned down after approaching a girl within 2-3 minutes of meeting her, more than likely you’re not “her type”. Think about it, you had the confidence to walk up and start talking. She’s polite but thinks “he’s not my type” and has no lustful thoughts.

I think a lot of pretty girls who date unattractive guys have low self esteem because they think they don’t deserve a good looking man, partly due to coming from a broken family or other bad experiences. Plus, I’ve noticed a lot of white girls who date black or Asian guys tend to have liberal political views because they resent conservatives and see white males as part of the problem.

We all understand that although personality is important long-term, attraction needs to occur. Kindness, honesty and respect are excellent, but it doesn’t attract alone. Good looks together with all those qualities seals the deal.

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  • litelander8

    You lost me at “white girls”.

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    • I mention this because I know someone on Twitter who went viral for leaving a 3 year abusive relationship with a Pakistani Muslim. The whole video was gruesome because it had testimony of beatings, threatening texts, car damages, police reports and other elements of abuse.

      I looked at her profile and found she follows Bernie Sanders. That figures: She couldn’t find a white guy who is an extreme leftist and America-hater so she dates outside her race. I’m not a racist as I have many friends who are black and Hispanic. But people often date due to similar worldviews, especially since liberals hate conservatives so much.

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      • litelander8

        What’re you on about? Jeesh.

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        • My point was that her ex was both ugly and un-American. But she didn’t care because of her low self-esteem and support of socialism.

          It’s crazy, though, that she’s from Dallas which is part of why Texas will be a toss up in 2020. Everyone that voted for Trump needs to turn out to stop the radical left.

          So yeah.

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    This post is fucking dumb. Here I'll debunk it.

    1. Love at first site is stupid. Fake. Its ATTRACTION at first site and that is very different.

    2. Do you know about online dating at all? Men swipe right on 80% of women and women swipe right on 20% of men on tinder(roughly). Online dating shows all looks and almost no personality. Hmmmm. Men swipe 60% higher when looks are what's shown. Hmmmm.

    3. Men watch a lot more visual porn. Poor is a visual. Visual = pertaining to attractiveness. Men like it more hmmmm.

    4. Men have higher sex drive. Men think about sex more. Attractiveness in dating is about sexual attraction so it stand to reason that if men prioritize sex higher in a relationship, they prioritize looks higher as well.

    5. My dating experience. I have never been told I'm ugly or not attractive. Not once. You think I have never been dumped? I have been dumped for all kinds of other non-visual things like personality, sense of humor, logistics, friend groups and more.

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    • litelander8

      I’m not even going to read your points. The OP was fucking trash.

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        Oh come on WTF lol

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    • Anoverthinker

      I fucking agree with all your points.

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        Thanks chief

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    • SwickDinging

      Some good points well made.

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        Thanks chief! Married woman agrees with me I think I must be right :)

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    • leggs91200

      "Men swipe right on 80% of women and women swipe right on 20% of men on tinder(roughly)"

      Must be some thirsty-ass loser men to do all that "right swiping".

      The typical female on a dating site has at least a few of these desirable features listed -

      "Hi. I am the cankle queen"
      "I am raising a tribe of small children (with another on the way) who are my world, I don't drive nor work, I sit at home collecting disability. I do not have time for dating. I do not want sex. I am overweight and look like hell. I live out in B.F.E. My elderly parents live with me as I am their caregiver. I drink like a fish and smoke like a freight train. 420 friendly. Please do not contact unless you love animals and roaches because I run a small zoo inside my single-wide trailer home. I have a good therapist helping me through depression"

      Of course when it is JUST a photo, it is a pretty blonde standing next to Jabba the slut. Guess which one is the profile owner?

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      • Youfinnadiebaby

        OK incel

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        Loser men for wanting a lot of sex? Nice try sir. Having somewhat low standards to get laid more does not make someone a "thirsty ass loser"

        Have you used tinder before? Over half of the female profiles have a 100% blank bio. About a half of those with a bio just have one corny line that doesn't tell you shit. By looking at a tinder bio you can only gauge a teeny bit about personality on some women. But most guys don't even read bios they just see if shes hot enough and swipe right anyways.

        Keep in mind I'm talking about tinder only. Other sites probably have more information required in a bio and also the swipe rates must be different. But tinder is by far the most common dating site and that's the swipe rates so boom there's my evidence.

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    • Nikclaire

      "I have never been told I'm ugly or not attractive".

      That doesn't really mean anything. Most people won't call someone ugly. That would just be mean as fuck to do in real life. I've called people ugly on the internet without seeing them, because of their cuntish behavior, but that's different.

      Who goes around calling people ugly??

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      • leggs91200

        Keep in mind that all these beautiful women are just throwing themselves at DNM. He has a hard time deciding which ones to sleep with.

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        I do, chief. I don't say ugly I say "I don't really find you attractive" or something along those lines. Said that to maybe half a dozen women.

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  • MissileExpert

    You are absolutely right. I get rejected after saying "Hi". They don't respond and walk away. If you fail to get more than 2 seconds of attention, it can only be because of looks.

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  • Fugazi,again

    Of course they do. Duh

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  • Igetbannedeveryweeklol

    Never had that problem 🤔

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  • Hubbard

    I was under the impression they did more on average

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  • ellnell

    There is no such thing as an "unattractive guy" because if you connect with someone you do, then attraction can come from that alone and looks get less important. If you've never experienced that you haven't experienced love.
    I'd rather be with a wonderful guy I had a strong connection with who was average than a model-looking dumb jerk and the most attractive men I have dated has been either dumb or jerks.
    I've also experienced being hit by model-looking dudes and turned them down because I felt no connection with them or thought they seemed boring or too shallow.

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    • Nikclaire

      Isn't that a little goodlookingist. Haha. I find pretty much all men repulsive to look at tbh, so it is all about personality, but excluding someone cause they are good looking seems wrong.

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  • Nikclaire

    I can only speak for myself but I care about looks but not in the way you think. It's not physical attractiveness, it's appearance. Like how does someone hold themselves, are they confident, shy, aggressive, pompous looking, bitchy? I get attracted to body language, which is looks but not how men define looks.

    I don't agree with DNM. I watch porn all the time and I have an extremely high sex drive enough to masturbate multiple times a day. A ton of women I've known are the same way, whether they admit it or not.

    Proof of this can be had by eves dropping on a group of women when they think men aren't around. We can be extremely graphic to the point of disgusting haha.

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    • The thing is, I don’t understand body language because I might be on the autism spectrum. I’m assuming you don’t speak for most women.

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      • Nikclaire

        Ok

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  • MrMercury24

    I don't think we should just compare all women to all men. Some women give a shit about themselves way too much and so do some men.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Is it wrong to be content enough as a single person that I want the whole package, and I'm very cool with not settling, because in the end I'd rather be guaranteed that I would always have a Siamese cat in my life than a human partner?

    I recently reconnected with a female friend who is very much not an animal person, and she's still messing with guys who aren't right for her. She told me she just got out of a relationship with an abusive guy, and that she had an abortion over the summer. I feel really bad for her, but I don't judge her. I'm just glad that she's not stuck with the guy.

    I do, however, think it would do her a world of good to take a break from dating, and just focus on herself.

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    • MrMercury24

      I mean yeah that's totally fine as long as you understand that that "whole package" thing doesn't really exist for people like us, and that people that are that perfect have the pick of the lot. I mean for me I can be with just about anyone who isn't fat or stupid. I love people and everyone is special in their own little way with their problems and bonuses.

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  • Mammal-lover

    You can think that but youd be wrong most the time. Personality and the like is far more attractive than physical appearance

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    • Depends how you define it.

      If it’s honesty, trust, respect and kindness. Absolutely a relationship cannot stand without those, no matter how one looks.

      But if it’s sense of humor or playfulness, then not really because I don’t see a reason why those thing would be important.

      You might find this unusual, the reason I’m serious and think humor is a chore is because I am the type of person who analyzes reality instead of trying to dodge it with jokes. I just don’t see value in being funny because it makes no logical sense.

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      • Mammal-lover

        Look man I'm a realist as well and comedy is much favorite. If you cant make me laugh I'll never date you. You can define everything however you like but at the end of the day I know my existence is pointless and so is everyone else's. We can run all the numbers bit it doesnt matter. I'm 21 almost drowned 3 times now, almost got hit by a train, known people who litterly want to rape me. Like not even fantasy rape but full blown you ain't gonna like what happens. Been with a abusive man for almost 2 years. Almost got hit by a car because of a fainting issue I have. And live with the fact that of my best friend my only friend really knew my sexuality someone who's like a sister to me would never talk to me again.

        So frankly I dont see the point on sitting on stuff and junk. We live once and it's a short life let's enjoy it let's laugh be merry make mistakes etc. Just so what makes you happy and fuck all to the rest of it.

        Oh yea and i stabbed myself with a box cutter today on accident. Small stab but still. Bled like a mothetfucker

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  • KholatKhult

    I read somewhere that women only find 14% of the men on dating apps attractive where men find like 80% of the women attractive.

    I hear most all of my woman friends say that females are just vastly more attractive because they work on their appearance, and a good looking man is rare.

    But I think women care more about your reputation and wealth more than your looks

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    • Nikclaire

      I use the Seinfeld standard. 90-95% of the population "UNDATEABLE!!".

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    Sometimes its like a 6th sense that you can not explain. If you asked me what the most important quality in a mate is for me I'd say looks. But when I look back to highschool, I had a crush on girls that were probably a 7 when I could have gotten with the 10s. There's just something about some girls that you just like and you cant explain it. That probably works vice versa too.

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