Is it normal that i think the idea of "moving on" is false?

Let's say you have a childhood friend that you've known since you were 4 or 5 and after 10+ years, you grow to really love that friend as if she or he was another sibling (regardless of how much the both of you may have fought). Ok? And you move to another state (with NO choice in the matter, mind you. For me, it was moving from Georgia to Louisiana. The only reasons why I EVEN came to this stupid state is because 1) I was underage at the time and 2) My mother promised me a dog. Now that I'm grown and I have my dog, there's no further reason why I should be here) and don't see your friend for 3+ years (And yes, I'm speaking from self experience). Let's say you GRIEVE yourself dry everyday for over a year and someone has the gall to tell you to "Move On" or "It was only a friend, you can make more". Moving on is the largest amount of BULLSHIT, DICK-LICKING PILE OF CROCK I ever heard. To me, "Moving On" sounds alot more like "Abandoning your friends for good and pretending as if you never had a bond to begin with". To that I counter with this: "Those who break the rules are scum. But those who would abandon even ONE friend are far worse than scum" (Apparently, if you lose your friends you're supposed be a "Grown-Up" and forget about them (AKA "Moving On" because that's the RULES of being "Mature"). You can't tell me that's not what "Moving On" is. You're basically giving your friend a big "FUCK YOU" to their memory as well as them. You're leaving them and throwing away the relationship you had as if it was nothing. Friendships are supposed to be FOR LIFE, not a measly amount of time. If someone dares telling you that friends don't matter, they do and they matter alot more than most people make out. "Make another friend". Yeah, fucking right. How about this: Next time YOU lose a loved one how about I say this: WHY DON'T YOU GO MAKE A NEW LOVER/SIBLING/CHILD? (After all, If you're going to undervalue the importance of friends, then why don't we undervalue those people too?). NOT SO EASY OR WORTHLESS, HUH? IF IT'S NOT EASY TO REPLACE THOSE PEOPLE, THEN IT'S NOT EASY TO REPLACE FRIENDS EITHER. FRIENDS AREN'T REPLACABLE, YOU DUMB FUCKS! "Friends can't be close as family". Bull. Just Bull. Yes, they can (You just never met the people with close friends). If you put your CHILDREN, AUNTS, NEPHEWS, UNCLES, NIECES, PETS, PARENTS, and SIBLINGS ON A GOLDEN PEDASTAL, THEN FRIENDS SHOULD BE THERE TOO. No loved one is replaceable and if anyone says they are, they are stupid, pathetic wastes of space.

Rant Over. I'm not trolling. I'm actually being quite serious because I suffered a horrible loss and I'll NEVER be over it. Never. Even now I greive and long for the day I'll be back with my friends (If love finds a way and we meet up again). Until I'm back with them, I'll never make a new friend. If that makes me a child, then so be it. I'd rather be a child then let go of those I loved very much and will continue loving even to my grave.

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  • dom180

    Moving on means appreciating the special times you shared, but not being in pain every day because you don't have that person anymore. Moving on is content-ness with the current state of affairs.

    Being content with being alone is not abandoning or betraying your friends, or insulting the memory of them. Moving on does not mean forgetting.

    If you refuse to make new friends, all you're doing is self-flagellating. It is *not* betraying your old friends to make new friends.

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  • jeebley

    What about phones and the internet?

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  • (s)aint

    No new friend can ever replace the one you lost!
    But you can still maybe find other people to hang out with too whilst you are still stuck there. You are just kinda ...forcing yourself to be miserable if you shut potential friends out.

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  • lolol555

    "Those who break the rules are scum. But those who would abandon even ONE friend are far worse than scum"
    I swear I heard this somewhere before... But where?

    Either that or its just some common phrase, which would suck, because I want to remember the show's name it's from.
    Hey, OP, even though I'm not really contributing to the comments here... What show was it from?

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    • Agirlsbestfriend.

      It was Little House on The Prairie

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  • Shackleford96

    I wish more people better understood what true friendship actually is. The notion seems to be foreign to people nowadays. You seem to have a pretty good grasp of it though.

    Losing a friend you've known so long can be very hurtful. It's like loosing a part of yourself that you might not ever get back. Letting go of that part of yourself is sure NOT easy like some people would try and make it out to be, and forgetting about it completely, well there's just no way.

    I am sorry that happened to you, and I also hope you are able to get back in touch with your friend(s) again so that you can be happy. Also, and I am in NO way saying to forget about your old friends, you have to try not to be afraid to make new friends as well because being a loner really sucks sometimes...

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