Is it normal that i think my wife is cheating on me?

Hi i need advice on the subject, that i think my wife is cheating on me, well here goes, my wife works for a bank, and I've noticed that her manager and her been getting bit close, so i been doing a bit of snooping around and I've checked her phone for messages , and noticed that he sends her very friendly messages, but i didn't think anything of it, until one day there was a bank statement on the kitchen bench, so i looked at it carefully, and i seen that my wife been lending him money, as much as $1500 dollars in a month, so i then went to look at all the other statements and noticed that it happen 4 or 5 times, it seemed it was getting into a bad habit,, then another time i checked her phone and i seen a picture taken from my wife car and she took a picture of a car with a personal number plate with his initials and date of birth ex kev70,and she sms it to him..... well her manager name is kevin and born 1970, so i immediatly thought the wrong thing, so then she had noticed that I've been looking at her phone and she had a go at me, and i had a go at her,and we argues and I've been stressing out that she been having an affair,i know that he lives in sydney, and he comes down to melboune few times a week, and my wife says to me ,,,,i might have to go to sydney for work one of these days, so i stress out even more, is it normal for me to think that she's having an affair? please help

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Comments ( 21 )
  • Alison89

    I'd start with the money first, but something isn't right in this situation.

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  • joybird

    What I don't understand is why she would lend him money?! He would be getting travelling expenses and earning more than her.

    If it was my husband, I would make an appointment to see the woman involved, and ask her WHY she felt the need to borrow money off my husband!! If she wants to go away for work, call her bluff and tell her you'll go too for a mini-break.

    She may just be sucking up to the boss and he could be playing with her to scam her out of money!

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    • solararity

      i know that he recently divorced, and she said she felt sorry for him because his accounts were frozen, but what i don't understand is.... if his account were frozen how were they be able to tranfreer money across?? i don't know if I've been lied to.

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      • joybird

        One of you has been lied to coz you are correct - he would not be able to withdraw from a closed account. I'd ask her what's it got to do with her anyway. Has he no friends or family to borrow from rather than a lower grade work colleague?

        However, I do believe her about the car reg being a coincidence but if you go to the office you will find out for sure.

        Fuk it! Go and ask him the questions - she/they are lying.

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    • solararity

      i know that her boss recently divorced, thats all i know

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  • Nomster!

    Ofcourse it's normal, don't think about it that way. Think, "is it normal that my wife may be having an affair".

    Your completely normal. I would confront her, and if she is. LEAVE!!! That's my advice man. I hope it turns out the best for you.

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    • suckonthis9

      I agree. Also be careful that she is not telling lies.

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    • solararity

      i have, and she says theres nothing going on,

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      • Nomster!

        Dont take that as an answer, she may be lieing. Confront her boss perhaps? Lie, mabey say something like "i know what you were doing with my wife" see what he says. You should take every measure possible to figure out whats going on.

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  • Steve2.0

    As long as you don't kill each other, and sort out this problem like sophisticated adults, then I'm sure you will survive.

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  • jordansbabe24

    I think shes cheating on you

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  • cameronimadd

    Dude if shes defensive bout the phone, shes hiding somthing. when my woman wouldnt tell me if she was cheating i got the dude i suspected and i hit him in the knees with a tow bar on a stick and made him tell me. do this. stop at nothing to expose that fuckin whore.

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  • Jeshua

    Go talk to her boss. Don't even fuck with your wife no more stop paying her attention,and turn all your efforts over to her boss.
    If you do that and she wants him that should bring it out of her

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  • joben112

    hit her till she stops

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  • Tehboss

    she's deepthroating him fo sho
    now be a men and just leave her trashy ass.
    but even in the very remote chance she is not serving him a big fat piece of poontang pie something is wrong and she should have told you.
    so either way you are being a pussy ...

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  • emotionalwreck4ever

    i think she is.

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  • rin

    How was your relationship with her before she found out you were snooping and you guys got into an argument? I'm just wondering if there were any other signs.

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    • solararity

      my relationship was very good,but i have noticed that she has slowly moved away further from me

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  • Jweezee

    A bank manager with a custom license plate..........oh yeah, they're fuckin.

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    • rosho

      I agree with you

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    • solararity

      she said that it was a coincidence that she seen the custom number plate of the car in front of her, thats why she took the picture and sms it to him, and she says to me what do you think i was doing?, and i told her ,seems that you were following him somewhere thats the impression i get, she says I'm been stupid and silly for thinking this,....... would any other husband get the same impression as i did in this situation?

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