Is it normal that i think my family did the wrong thing?

You should assume that your mum and uncle know him better than you do. You have to think - how would knowing this improve his life? I think he may have enough to cope with so they don't want him to give up on his own life just yet.

Leave it be. It may not seem fair but whoever said life is fair?

Ignorance is bliss in this case.

it's rather wrong to keep it from him.

doesnt anyone agree with you? even if he does die, does your family really want his last thoughts to be "what douchebags"...thats what I would be thinking if it were me.

Why don't you tell him? Well, actually I'm sure that would get some people mad at you...

He has the right to know.

If someone kept a secret that important from me, I'd hate them forever.

Tell him before its to late and builds up into something ugly. It may not be the right thing to do but either sides will have bad results or good results.

It's his right to know. Your family is managing him, and that's not their call to make. Hurt feelings should be his choice, not theirs.

id stay out of that one and hope everything is for the best

Nobel intentions, wrong actions.

It's wrong and I agree with that, but on the same token I can understand how they're trying to protect him by doing so. Why don't you post an anonymous obituary in the paper and say its some long lost friend of the twin. That way grandpa gets to find out, you get to tell the secret and people won't get mad at you. Just a thought, although I generally think people get what's coming to them at some point so I wouldn't stress too much thinking your folks can "get away with it" so to speak.

I agree with Joybird. How well do you know him? Some people can't cope with death. Some people embrace the truth. I know you're trying to do the right thing, but think very carefully before you make a decision.

I'm just gonna repeat what everyone else has said- it's wrong to keep that information from him. If your grandfather ever found out that his children lied to him about his brother's death, I'm pretty sure he'd feel seriously betrayed.

He needs to mourn the loss of his brother. He needs to pay his respects. To say they have a right to keep that from him when they were brothers before your family was part of his family is wrong.

I understand they are trying to protect him, but it does seem a bit disrespectful on their part.

They should tell him and hope for the best.

This is unfear. C'mon, the man has seen 85 years he is not a child. I'm sure he knows the truth of life, of course he will be upset when he heard that his brother died but he can fight with this.