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Ok, hears the deal, my friend seems depressed because she says her dad “abuses” her, but I don't really believe her becuz she seems bi-polar, like one day she's sad and depressed, the next she acts like nothin happened and i wanna think she's just doin that for attention...and i want 2 believe her but then i dont, so, IIN?
What if she's "bipolar" and wants attention, because she is abused?!
Also, wouldn't you still want to help a person who's just looking for attention?? They need comfort. As her best friend, I think you should provide that.
If she does have bipolar disorder she needs support. She cannot control her moods. Although just b/c she's depressed one day and seems fine the next doesn't mean she's bipolar.
Does she tell everyone her dad abuses her or just you? If she told a bunch of people I could see why you would think she's lying.
She doesn't have to be depressed 24-7 to be telling the truth.
i hate it when people try an get attention from doing dumb stuff she maybe lien you should try and catch her in a lie
Stick by her side. If it is a lie. She will grow out of it eventually and when she does, she will need somebody there.
-speaking from experience. Unfortunately.
lots of people are ashamed that they are abused and they just act like nothing happened because they dont want to over burden their friend in fear of them leaving her or just doesnt want to talk about it
people who are abused tends to be bi-polar. they want to reach out to others but at the same time are too scared to do so. they dont want others to think they are all depressed and weird so they pretend to be really high but sometimes the sadness gets to them and they get all derpessed
Show her that you care to help. You need her trust before you question her about the details of the abuses. Don't afraid to pry because she confided a very sensitive information in you to start with. Give her courage if she refuses to talk about it. If that is so, it could well be the sign of a traumatic abuse. Don't let your preconceived opinions of her make you think that she's making up stories.
Everybody lies. (bipolar people are rarely prone to pathological ling, you are thinking about schizophrenics and borderliners) Sometimes they lie out of the need to never let somebody know what really happened. Other times they make stuff up and rely on impossibility of the target to actually check. They may do this for a variety reasons. There is the willful lie (skillfully prepared and cooked up on purpose, the "sane" lie and the lie told by someone who had not a clear idea about what was going on in the first place) In the first case, if stressed out, the person might reveal the truth. In the second case if interrogated and scared, it is likely the subject will just come up with more made up stuff. Which can be used against him or her in a court of law anyway. Everyone has got abused one time or the other one way or the other, so as far as I am concerned,It is never a lie. Trouble is finding out what they might have been put through could be quite difficult. Especially if their memory is kind of jumbled. The mind often reacts to it by repressing the painful memory of the event. Completely or partially. Also known as: post traumatic selective memory retrieval deficit. Typical of dissociative disorders.
One of the few ways to make sure if she really has been somehow abused, consists on keeping an eye on her and the alleged abuser while she replicates the conditions necessary in order to trigger the abusive behavior. Then kind of arrest the guy straight away.
It is important doing so before the abusive and potentially dangerous behaviors leads to further consequences for the victim. In the worst cases the victim ends up becoming almost totally and completely subserviant to the abuser/s. Something on the edge of enslavement.
So, whether you believe her or not, you should report the whole thing. Or encourage her to do so.