Is it normal that i think men with money are attractive?

I'm a 20 year old college student and a lot of the guys that flirt with me there are hot but broke with no car. I'm also broke without a car so I'm not judging anyone, I would just rather be friends with a guy like that than be in a committed relationship. I know some men who are older than me who have a good income. They're never going to be on the sexiest men alive list but I don't care. What turns me on is that they are willing to spend their hard earned money on buying me a fancy dinner or anything else. My friends have boyfriends their own age so I feel like I'm not normal.

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47% Normal
Based on 68 votes (32 yes)
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  • charli.m

    I find it incredibly depressing that your top interests are a guys cash and looks. Nowhere did you nention personality.

    Smh.

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    • I wrote in my story that the guys I date are not the most handsome and of course I care about how someone treats me, who wouldn't. If someone is going to treat me bad the relationship is over.

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      • charli.m

        "hot but broke with no car" = "I would just rather be friends with a guy like that than be in a committed relationship"

        "men who ... have a good income. They're never going to be on the sexiest men alive list but I don't care. What turns me on is that they are willing to spend their hard earned money on buying me a fancy dinner or anything else"

        ...now explain to me how this is not prioritising money and looks (with top preference for money and what THEY can do/provide for YOU in terms of money, services and material possessions).

        So what exactly do they get from this 'relationship' other than a drained soul and bank account?

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        • I prioritize the men I date. If I'm going to invest my emotions and love into a man, he needs to provide me with something. If I dated a broke guy, what would I get out of it, nothing, I would not be happy and we couldn't go on dates. Those guys are friends because they're average. I will not settle for average or good enough when it comes to my boyfriend. I can have as many friends as I want but only one boyfriend and he needs to be amazing. It's not just about money, he has to have a good personality, like animals and be a democrat. I do not have drained soul, I am not a bad person. Like most young people I am trying to find the person I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. So I'm pick, if I'm going to be with him forever I can't just overlook things and I do know no one is perfect, I'm not expecting anyone to be. Some people only date in their religion or race, is that depressing to you or is it just me?

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  • dirtybirdy

    You disgust me. Get a fuckin job you filthy grub.

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  • Are you a woman? If so, yes, I believe it's very normal.

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    • yes, I am a female.

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  • ifeelcrazysometimes

    If you're talking some fun dates and dinners, then who cares, enjoy, but if you're really looking to find a husband this way, then I feel kind of bad for you.

    You may be increasing your chances for a comfortable life, but you're also putting yourself in a position to be controlled by your future partner (and probably his family if you're seeking the super wealthy type). Also, people with lots of money usually marry other people with lots of money...where the fuck do you think all the money comes from? You're probably going to get gym-socked by these guys until it's time for them to get serious and marry someone "more appropriate."

    Don't give me any of that Prince William and Kate shit, either, because her family has more money that his...

    This idea that people with money are better providers is bullshit. What do you want them to provide? You can go make your own money, but you'll have a much harder time making yourself happy in a relationship that's devoid of physical and emotional excitement.

    Go buy a lottery ticket and start dating the guy who's best in bed, he's probably on the lacrosse team or something...

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  • We all know money can greatly improve the quality of our lives so naturally when looking for a suitor those with money are more attractive.
    When seeking a mate it's normal for girls to put success or not being broke as something important as obviously those with money are better providers.

    This is totally normal and this girl is smart enough to realize it at a young age when most of her peers are just horny little sluts looking for cock.

    She's exhibiting the qualities that a mate should: She's looking for a quality qualified suitor and in return she'll be the same.
    I understand it and I would prefer to date someone like her than a girl that was just a Rocket Queen jumping from cock to cock every week.
    That's just a slut with no worthy qualities at all. This young woman is showing signs that she won't cheat on her guy just because some younger better looking guy flirts with her. The Rocket Queen is more likely to go for a ride on Mr. new cock.

    I'm curious about the OP's background. Maybe her parents didn't have a lot of money so she realizes how important money is in a relationship?
    I say that because I had a lot of friends that grew up broke and they hated it and it held them back in life so they realize how important money is compared to other young people that were middle class and others that were spoiled by being wealthy. Yes, I've had friends like that too.

    Side note :
    Several of my poor broke ass friends are now millionaires while some the spoiled kids that got everything handed to them work at the mall, no joke.

    Men are supposed to be men and that partly means being providers to their mate. Not playing xBox and farting on your friends head while being drunk.

    I think it's smart of the OP to be thinking about her future and who wouldn't want a mate with a lot of money, it greatly improves the quality of one's life.

    One thing I would say to you OP is, keep your heart open because you never really know who you're going to fall in love with and if that guy happens to be broke you can still be extremely happy with him even if he never makes a lot of money. True happiness isn't huge houses, fancy dinners, or diamond rings. Once you have those things they all get boring quickly so really you should choose the guy that treat's you the best and makes you feel good. From what you write I think you know this but I just wanted to remind you :)

    Remember what I write because the more fancy dinners you go to you'll end up getting really bored if you don't honestly like the guy a lot.

    Sounds like you have your priorities and your head on straight instead of being the typical college slut doing drugs and fucking everyone, thank you.

    As long as you have an open heart I don't think you're going astray.

    Btw, what time should I pick you up in my Lambo?

    ;)

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Good luck finding happiness this way.

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  • dom180

    The prevailing psychological theory is that people, especially women, are biologically programmed to find money attractive. So in that sense it's normal, but I don't think it should be one of the first things you look for and in the long run you might find it becoming less and less important to you.

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    • "The prevailing psychological theory is that people, especially women, are biologically programmed to find money attractive."

      Where do you get this horseshit?

      'biologically programmed' to like money?

      Is this the crap they teach you in school these days?

      FAAAHHHHK!

      Unless someone is a complete moron it's common sense to realize money is the freedom which people seek. It opens almost all possibilities to your life giving you the choice of exactly how you want to live.

      Money is freedom.
      Money is power.
      Money is good.

      (Did you just imagine Gordon Gekko saying that? LOL. I know u did!)

      Those who have it live how they want to live.
      Those without it suck the bosses's dick until they die.

      You decide who you want to be.
      I know my decision.

      I don't like sucking dick.

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      • dom180

        You're not understanding me. My point was that people find potential partners with more money attractive. And why do think that is "common sense"? The answer is because it's biologically programmed. Nothing is "common sense" without there being a reason for it being so.

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  • 53739

    Someday I will be that guy. Until then I will keep working hard.

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  • college

    Would I date someone JUST based on their income, no way. I must admit, however, a man does become MORE attractive if he is wealthy. I like to think of myself as a relatively deep, intelligent person, but I suppose we all have a shallow side.

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  • Gamzeee

    OR OR OR oR Or or ....... you could stop being a gold digging hussy and focus on getting a good education and good job ... make good money (your own money?!?!?!?! mind blown yet?) .. AAAAAAAND meet someone that you like for them and not their money because it won't matter because you won't be a broke joke and can support yourself ... *claps*

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  • thegypsysailor

    Come on, I know you can do it. Let's spell it together, yes, that's the way. Here we go, come on sweetie, you can do it, I know you can do it. Come on; G-O-L-D-D-I-G-G-E-R.
    You did it, very, very good, sweetie.

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  • eastbeast

    I bet you a shiny new Mercedes, some diamond earrings and a pearl necklace you will find me more attractive than anyone else.

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  • Who a person is inside and an intimate connection are more important to me than how much money a man makes. I am not going to marry someone only because they're rich. I'm an independent person, I have a job and I live in a dorm with a couple other girls, I am self reliant. Most of the college dudes just want to get drunk and hookup which is a big turn off, I choose not to drink and I'm not allowed. The older men I have dated are sweet, kind and treat me like a lady. They don't pressure me to do anything I don't want to do. I think there is something very sexy in a man who is willing to take me to expensive places and has the money to do so, I was trying to ask if that was normal or not.

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  • Avant-Garde

    So, Midnas really did have a sexy touch?

    "Baby, you are so sexy that you've turned me into a hard, shining, sexy statue of gold."

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    I think it's normal. Provider figure + young hottie = nature's most common match.

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  • Sumi

    Lulz while it was a rough read I get it. You might want to change the title to men with priorities straight. Right now it really does come off like you are a gold digger. Every college girl wants a guy who buys her dinner over GTA 5.

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