Is it normal that i think kindness is sufficient for relationships

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All that’s needed to date is kindness, honesty and respect. I don’t understand why so many people like a sense of humor, mind games and easy going personalities in their partners.

I’m a serious and analytical person and for me, humor is about dodging reality using jokes. It doesn’t make sense. The only logical way to deal with a problem is to analyze it (what went wrong? How to avoid it?). I am entirely left-brained like a robot and I’m seeking someone who is serious and logical like me.

I get along much better with conservatives and older people. Why? Because they are more realistic than most people my age who think straight talk without teasing is “boring”. I never go out to bars or clubs because I see no point in getting drunk to “have fun”.

That’s why people in the 1950s all got married, because they didn’t care about “how cool or fun” a person is. All that mattered back then was having a job, going to church and being a nice person.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    Well you sound like loads of fun.

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  • GaelicPotato
    4 years ago

    OK Sheldon.

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  • howaminotmyself
    4 years ago

    I don't know anyone who want a partner who plays mind games. I don't even want a friend who does that. Kindness is great as a general rule. We all can be a bit more kind. But this does look different based on how you were raised. Some see teasing as a kindness. And the level is subjective. For the most part, people do not work like robots. Nothing is black and white, especially emotions. There is a science to it and you can analyze the hormone levels and look at data from happy people. But much of happiness is affected by unknowns. The sound of the ocean may calm some, but trigger others.

    Humor is a form of communication. It is an art. Completely open to interpretation and subjective. You may see it as "dodging reality" but one could argue that all our experiences are about dodging reality regardless of perceived humor. But that gets into the philosophical realm.

    A problem for you may not be a problem for me. Perspective.

    People in the 50's all got married because there was no other realistic option.

    Kindness still matters. Probably more now than ever as we navigate a rapidly changing future. But we should be kind as a default for any relationship. A romantic one will require more if it is to be sustainable and fulfilling long term. You need to have common interests.

    Also, love is not always logical. That is the reality of it.

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  • XYXY
    4 years ago

    We are only here once so learn to have fun and enjoy life

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