Is it normal that i think i was born way after my time?

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Well I've always often felt like I was born way after my time. Like I'm of an old spirit. Or "old school"... I'm 37 and never been married. Had multiple broken relationships that seem to have never lasted past 6 years and have been engaged a few times and never managed to tie the knot. Solely because it means something to me. And when I get married I will do it once. With no excuses or outs. But I can't seem to find someone with the same belief system as me. At least not in today's erea where everyone cheats and gets divorced. Like what the hell happened to the concept of commitment and why does everyone seem to lack it. Its not always about love but it is about commitment and why do people always destroy every vital aspect of long term relationships on purpose. Like u choose to cheat. U choose to beat women etc. Crazy how it seems to work out. Its like people just wanna screw anymore but nobody wants anything longterm. Marriage means nothing. I guess I'm discouraged and feel like I'm not gonna find that one to build my life with. I'm terrified I'm gonna have worked on building this single life on my own then when someone does come along I'm gonna be sound and secure and not willing to tear it down all for the sake of "maybe for awhile". I guess I just feel like I'm too old for the current generation. The new way of thinking and it breaks my heart to think that this is my destiny. Alone. God didn't create people go be alone. But he also didn't create people to have tons of relationships. Does anyone ever feel like this or am I under medicated? Seriously. Its just sad.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    The idea of marrying because it means something is a rather modern concept.

    People cheated in the past too. Except it wasn't considered cheating as it was expected. At least, it was acceptible for the man to hire a prostitute to suck his cock because he didn't want the mother of his children to behave that way.

    God didn't make us monogamous. Humans made up that concept as one way to live life, not the only way.

    You are being old fashioned in a sense, but you are not an old spirit. You belief system is stuck in an ideal that was never reality.

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  • imnotcrazy76
    9 years ago

    I appreciate ur comments and I agree with u completely about how life was at some point and reasoning why people came together in marriage. Like I said it isn't always about love its about commitment and loyalty to their partner. See for me...it isn't a fantasy. It isn't for dreamers. It does most definitely exisit still today...although I have yet to experience it. It happened for my grandparents and for millions of couples. It is something that has been dropping in success rate for a long while. My only point is...in my small "rant" of frustration yes ur right...is there anyone that feels the same frustration. Thank u for the ones that agreed they have felt like I have before. I comprehend commitment I value small things such as loyalty and communication and faith in god. It isn't a fantasy. It can and hopefully someday be my reality. With all the agrees it gives me hope knowing their are people out there that desire the same thing and possible have the same values. See it is easy to cheat. It is easy to run. It is easy to find a way out. Its easier to find someone "else" that will give u the same thing u desire without all the work or complications. It isn't easy to do any of those things if u believe in the commitment u made. Every relationship has hardships huge ones...but if u are not out for urself and ur own desires then it will work. It will last. If u view it as a team as one.together. where both peoples wants.needs and desires are met. If u respect ur marriage u are not willing to do detrimental things to destroy it. I have hope.....someday I'll have that.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    "God didn't create people go be alone. But he also didn't create people to have tons of relationships." How the hell do YOU know this? Does it talk to you?
    I thought this was going to be an interesting and fun post, but it's just another rant.
    In the first place, in yesterday's "erea", people got married to procreate, for family and social security but rarely (if ever) for love. Men worked, often not coming home for long periods (sometimes years) and women raised the kids and managed the hovel. Almost everybody died by 45, and values like faithful and commitment just didn't exist. Whores and whore houses were common, accepted and frequented.
    You are seeking something that exists only in novels, and in the minds of dreamers.

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  • palepunk
    9 years ago

    "... way after your time" so really you're asking if it's normal to feel like you're from the future.

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    • mountain-man82
      9 years ago

      It means he should have been born in the past. If he said that he feels like he was born before his time then you'd be correct. Either way, OP, its normal to have those feelings.

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