Is it normal that i think flirtation is phony?

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There's something about flirtation that seems phoney, calculated, and rehearsed. It's the same old lines ("You're so beautiful/hot/gorgeous!")

And then they all use the same techniques, like trying to buy me a drink, or putting his hand on the small of my back to test the waters. Some even think they're being charming and original by saying a pick up line meant to be ridiculous (yet serious at the same time,) and if I don't go for it BECAUSE its supposedly charming and original, I'm an uptight bitch with no sense of humor.

I don't know, these mating rituals make me gag. If you go to a bar and just sit there and watch people you'll see what I mean, and its sad and hilarious at the same time.

I date, but I go for guys who treat me like a normal person, and don't have a gimmick when they ask me out. I like straight-shooters ("Do you wanna go out this weekend?") Why does it take any more than that? I guess I like it because I don't beat around the bush either.

Anyone else feel this way?

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  • Pisslan616
    12 years ago

    I don't understand flirting either and I'm a guy.

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    A lot of the time people are flirting without knowing they are doing it though.

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago

    Totally with you on this... I like straight shooters too, but I can be a bit too practical sometimes as well. Guys that go for cheesy lines aren't all that bright IMHO. As for offering a drink, I reckon that is perfectly fine. It is how it is done that matters I think. The whole bar/pick up scene is such a mess. You have to be drinking to be able to cope with it... Lol

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    In some ways I agree, but if there was no way to "test the waters" then everybody would be asking out everybody all the time, which would get awkward.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Normal but where's the fun in that.

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  • willyma
    11 years ago

    there is so much relationship advice available. That people start becoming robots.. being honest and normal is hard to find these days, when it comes to dating.

    Just be flattered that someone is giving you attention, because one day-- you will be considered ugly or 'past it' and the lines will stop.. But you will regret it.

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    those guys arent flirting correctly. Sure you can say nice things, but the best things are when you TEASE her about something.
    "dang girl those heels are sharp, like sersly you could kill someone with those"

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  • crissyabear
    12 years ago

    Watch Discovery channel. We are all animals. It is part of the mating ritual. Have you ever just sat back and watched people at a club?

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  • thetimeofyourlife
    12 years ago

    Compliment the eyes. Then i say "dont know what it is put ive always had a thing for {insert hair colour}". Eye contact is important too.

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