Is it normal that i think about him all the time?

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I have been close friends with this man for over 2 years. I have been strongly attracted to him (Maybe even in love) for the past 9 months. I am not sure if he knows, as I am still trying to figure out how he feels without asking. I went through periods where I couldn't get him out of my mind, but then they eased up and I didn't think about him all the time. But every once in a while it comes back really strong. The last few days, I've been dreaming of him at night, thinking about him before I go to sleep, and as soon as I wake up. We are roommates, so we spend everyday together. My feelings for him are always there, but every once in a while, they just come back really bad, where he's on my mind every minute. Why is this? Normal? Love or infatuation?

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  • madme
    12 years ago

    Are you female or male? Just wondering from the comment you said he asked if he was the type you would go after.

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  • kittyluv
    12 years ago

    i can relate.........only to the "think about him all the time" part though

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  • harleyboogerson
    12 years ago

    just be careful if you do go for it and it doesn't work out than you'll be uncomfortable living with him and having to see him everyday. you'd be like a prisoner in your own home.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I think you got a thing for him. The kinda thing, that if you let it, and if he lets it, it could develop into something big, especially if he feels the same.

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  • wigsplitz
    12 years ago

    People tend to end up dating people they see a lot so it's not abnormal to develop feelings for someone that you are around a lot.

    I don't know how this guy acts or anything but it might be a sign that since he hasn't hit on you yet, he might not be interested. I could be completely wrong on that because it's not true for every guy, but most guys will try something if they are interested, especially if both of you are single. I've found this to be pretty reliable, both with personal experience and friends experiences with guy friends.

    You could do a few things...

    Just say something.

    Get a little frisky around him-like bend over a lot in front of him, leave a sexy thong out where he can see it, have him "accidentally" see you partially nude....stuff like that....

    Buy a bottle of booze and invite him to have some, get a little loosened up and make a move....

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  • niles402
    12 years ago

    These things are so normal that posting them is abnormal..But,yeah,it's love

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    I think a good blowjob is order!

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  • almostunreadable
    12 years ago

    You said "man". So it must mean he's older than you. You want older man so that you can feel exalted when other girls see you. It's competition (or power-play between other girls) thing. You don't genuinely love him.

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    • Panda1990
      12 years ago

      Yes, it's what wigsplitz said. We are in our 20's, so I'm not sure why I wouldn't call him a man? I certainly wouldn't say he's a boy. Please don't tell me that I don't genuinely love him, when you don't know me at all.
      But also, Wigsplitz, I wouldn't say he hasn't shown any signs. He's done and said a lot of things I'd consider interested. I think I just want him to make the first move, because if for some reason I'm wrong, I'd feel really stupid.
      He's even asked me in the past if he was the kind of man I'd chase. He grins at me all the time for no particular reason, and he likes to tickle me. We spend hours on end talking together about everything.

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      • wigsplitz
        12 years ago

        Oh, ok then. I thought you meant he hadn't shown any signs. Well that sounds promising then.

        Uhmmm, I guess you're just going to have to take a risk...

        You could just start doing some sexy stuff around him, that should get him going and prod him into making a move. That would be probably the least risky thing to do. Other than that, anything else I can think of involves you either saying something or making a move on him.

        Or maybe you could say something like-"you're such a great guy, why can't I find someone like you to go out with"...maybe he'll take the bait.

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    • wigsplitz
      12 years ago

      Not necessarily, they could both be 20,30,40,50.......I'd call someone my age a man, who wouldn't?

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