Is it normal that i think about her?

Eight years ago, I met this girl and ever since that day, we became best friends. We would do almost everything together. We would talk for hours and hours on the phone and our conversation subjects were endless. However, one year ago, things started to change between us. Something started to appear between us. When we would meet each other, we would get close to each other. Once, we were so close that we nearly kissed. We were less than an inch away from each others lips but we both hesitated. Ever since that moment I would have this tingly feeling inside of me. Whenever I would think about her, I would have this amazing feeling. I didn't understand what was happening and then it hit me. I was in love with her. I was in love with her...

Time passed and things got more and more intense. Alone, we would hold each other and we would hold hands. When our hands touched, I knew that she was feeling the same thing as I was. I knew that she cared for me and I knew that she was happy with me. I knew... I knew that she loved me.

At night, we would still talk for hours and hours and one night, she asked me to marry her. Not now though but she knew that in the distant future we would get married. I was so happy but then she said something that crushed my joy. She didn't want to go out with me yet. She said we were too young and that she didn't want to ruin our relationship. She promised that we would go out someday but that day wouldn't be anytime soon.

Three nights ago, during one of our deep conversation, she would keep on repeating that she loved me. Every few minutes she would say that she loved me. Her voice changed when she said those words that night. I wanted her so badly at that moment so I asked her to be my girlfriend but she refused. She told me not to wait for her and she told me to not to hope. She didn't want me to get hurt.

During the day, I was happy. I felt like the men in those Viagra commercials.

The next night, everything came crashing down on me. She told me that no matter what happened, she wouldn't go out with me and that she wouldn't go to be with me anything time soon. She didn't want me. In an instant, everything was over. I asked five questions to her.

Q:Are you in love with me?
A: Yes.
Q: Do you want to go out with me?
A: No.
Q: Nothing will change your previous answer?
A: I don't know. Just to be sure though, nothing will change my answer.
Q: Do you want a relationship with anybody else?
A: I just don't want to go out with you specifically.
Q: Why?
A: Because I don't want to. Don't wait for me and don't hope. Please.

I was angry, frustrated and I felt as if she filled my heart with love just to break it. I felt used.

Tonight, she called. At one point, she got really angry and she hung up on me without saying goodbye.

Here I am. It's 3:02 am. I can't sleep because I can't stop thinking about her.

Is it normal for me to think about this and are her answers to my questions normal?

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Based on 42 votes (24 yes)
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Comments ( 14 )
  • phuckejiu

    When you felt like the men from viagra commercial did it last over 4 hours?

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  • Donnie3423

    Don't push it she does not want to

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  • SAEH

    If you love her you will wait

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  • shenny

    @Luckeas(77364) : good to know that.but if both of you are ready for commitment then that's the time you'll be moving on to the next level. Goodluck :)

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  • Luckeas

    It's been over 2 months since I've written on this website and I must say that my entire life has changed. Firstly, I must say that this girl and I are madly in love yet we've decided not to commit ourselves to a full time relationship. What we have presently is just perfect and I could ask for nothing more. Cheers! :)

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  • Treez

    Maybe she doesn't want to ruin how good your relationship is.. When jealousy ad things like that come in the picture I'm sure she doesn't want to lose you over something stupid

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  • like2behappy

    She isn't sure what she wants yet. This happened to me about 4 months ago. I told the guy i like that i love him. But i told him i didn't want to go out with him for a couple of years. I never wanted to go out with him even though i loved him. I told him i couldn't. I felt that, i wasn't allowed, or i would get in trouble by my parents. Then after months apart, i realized, I didn't like him after all. Just a short lived infatuation. :/

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  • Linda15

    Sorry again listen Asking for advice is a good think but I really believe anything can happen What happened to me happened to ME and I just did what I knew was the best thing for me to do I was in a really bad place I couldn't do anything I had done with him without crying I couldn't eat or sleep well and everytime I watch him with her I wanted to just die so one day I just knew I had to stop and that's when I talked to him and told him we couldn't be friends anymore He was really nice but at the end he just let me go so...
    I'm much better now without him I am happy

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  • StarGirl13

    she is lying when she says she loves you. she is no worth your time and emotion. move on, you'll be happier without her.

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  • Linda15

    Sorry if my english is not good I'm from Spain. I fell for my best friend once too and it was really painful He did not want anything with me either so I try to just be friends with him cause I did not want to lose him Then he started going out with this other girl and it was worse for me
    So my advice to you is this: You should think for yourself Talk to her and if she keeps saying she doesn't want to be with you You should forget about her or just keep distance until you are better cause I believe you are going to suffer a lot if you stay by her side It may be painful for a while at first but then it will get better and you will meet someone else Anyway this is what I did but to be honest you should do whathever makes you feel better maybe I didn't love him enough but I just knew I couldn't be around him anymore I might sound confusing (sorry) but seriously do whatever you know is going to be the best thing for you

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    • Luckeas

      Do you mind if I ask you some questions? Do you still love him? Is he still with his girlfriend? Do you still talk to him?

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  • shuggy-chan

    Idk i disagree, if it is like u said she might be too scared to be with u. if u must have her then my advice is dont give up, but be gentle. dont get pushy about it, just show her thru ur actions that u will always love her and its oky to take the leap of faith if its with u.

    Best of luck!!! =D

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  • georgienne

    Nice story.
    She doesn't want you, why are you still trying? She was happy with your friendship, then you turned romantic and she didn't want your relationship to. It doesn't matter if she has any feelings for you: if she doesn't want the relationship, it won't happen.
    Stop waiting, move on.

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  • Linda15

    I'm sorry I think you asked me some questions but I'm not sure Anyway I sometimes think about him cause he was a really big part of my life but I'm with someone else and I love him even more I don't know if he (my former friend) keeps seeing the same girl Sometimes people tell me about him and sometimes I see him on the street I say hello how are you but it is just to be polite It hurts a little cause I miss him as a friend but I don't love him that way anymore

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