Is it normal that i suddenly feel lonely at college?

My first semester at college was amazing because I found a boyfriend right away (accidentally, actually) and he was always there for me and very loving. However, around February, I realized the relationship was unhealthy because it had cut me off from making friends. He was more controlling than I realized, and he was also depressed and didn't have very many friends himself. We spent all our time together, but he didn't understand when I would tell him I need time to myself or time away from him to be with my friends. So we broke up.

Now I'm struggling with rebuilding the friendships I first made when I got here. I'm not a super social person in general; meeting my boyfriend was just a happy accident and now that he's gone I feel pretty alone because he was my best friend. I'm an introvert, and I often feel like people forget about me. I'm also in a single, so that adds to it. It's difficult for me to reach out to people because I'm so quiet, and while I have a bunch of acquaintances here, I only have a couple of really good friends. I just feel alone because I miss having someone around who's close to me. I don't really know how to deal with this.

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  • EndlessEcstasy

    Immerse yourself in clubs of your interest. Be friendly.

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  • Kingsruler5

    Wait.... Whats ur question?

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  • solidman

    lol nice story but my advise to you is that first of all if you did love/like you boyfriend you shouldnt have broken up with him, and second of all just hang out with people like you, don t get me wrong but theres a whole world of people like you, you just have to find them i should know because people also call me anti-social. but the truth is i just don t fit in with them. for example, whenever i hang out with them it becomes akward, and many times i dont understand what are they talking about. just do what you love and youl make lots of friends doing what you love believe me. and if you miss your old boyfriend than just go find him and tell him that you miss him, that you also hate being alone.

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  • ready2rumble

    You can be introvert and still be a sociable person. It just takes a bit to open up. Most of the time people think that introverts are anti-social and unapproachable which is not generally the case.

    You could tell the people you are more comfortable with to help you to deal with this and help you to open up a bit

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