Is it normal that i suck at both hand jobs and blow jobs ?

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okay so i was hooking up with my boyfriend and i tried everything from blow jobs and hand jobs , so i wouldn't give him blue balls and i sucked at it completely if anything it got worse and the only way i could make it better was if we had sex and he loved it , meaning that i suck at blow jobs and hand jobs but i'm good at sex is that normal? i'm so confused .

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  • Oorden
    12 years ago

    You'll get better, but it would help if he told you what he likes. I've had two GF's who were just plain bad at it when I met them but it was a huge turn on to know they wanted to please me.

    You could watch some blowjob videos to improve your technique. But it'd be better to ask him to jerk off for you so you can see what he likes. He knows.

    I can only speak for myself, but I've talked to other guys and I know what experienced women try. In general, you need to get a bit more than the tip into your mouth - just below the head there's an area where the vein on the underside of the penis disappears into the shaft. That area is very sensitive. If you can't get it into your mouth then use your hands as an extension of your mouth so your hands and mouth make a complete "tunnel" and your mouth really just has to lubricate your hands.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    First thing honey, never do anything you don't want to do. He won't get blue balls, there is no such thing. Truthfully, I think you need to stop having sexual activity for the time being because you sound too young to be doing it.

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    • iindia
      12 years ago

      Blue balls are real and it hurts like $#%! I know I have a penis and now you know.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        No it is not. It's just you being horny which is what jacking off is for. Any girl that believes the "blue balls" thing, shouldn't.

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        • Britton
          12 years ago

          Yes, it most certainly is real. Your balls don't literally turn blue, its a figurative description. It's just how Pinecone explained...its VERY uncomfortable and rubbing one out isn't even a cure as it hurts after your load is blown.
          Seriously, women claiming fact to things penis related is the same as men claiming fact to giving childbirth. If you can't or have not experienced it first hand, don't lay claim to facts.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            Well okay but even so in the context OP has put it, it seems that he used that condition/excuse to get what he wanted. Like pressuring her. I mean don't get me wrong, I would never leave a guy like that, I finish what I start but I didn't lay claim to a fact or otherwise.

            Even so, I don't see it as a legit reason to do anything with anyone.

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            • jimbof
              10 years ago

              Blue balls are real but my gf found that using ice on them caused the pain to go away. So now if I'm pressuring her for sex she simply applies ice to them, and tells me to give her a long foot rub instead.

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            • Britton
              12 years ago

              I'm not even talking about the OP...I never said what was being done was right or wrong.....simply saying that blueballs are undoubtedly real...its very unsettling and try driving an hour home with em....fuck....you can literally feel every vibration from the road directly into your balls and its NOT pleasant...Yuck

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        • Pinecone
          12 years ago

          Yes there is. I have balls that have been blue before. If there is extensive foreplay, guys can get blue balls. The first time this happened to me was with a jr. high crush. We messed around, dry humped and kissed and the sort for a couple hours, but the girl did not want to go further. I respected this. After she left I began feeling sick to my stomach. Felt like someone literally kicked me square in the nuts with steel-toed cowboy boots. I realized this may be what I also did not believe existed at the time: blueballs. So I jacked off. My cum was extremely thin, like it was all semen and no sperm, presumably because my balls were swollen or something. But although I felt a tiny bit better after I jacked off, my poor go-nads still ached severely. So I jacked off again, then again until I was sure I couldn't get off any more. The pain lessened each time by a little, but the pain never fully went away until I woke up the next day. Since that occurance I have had blueballs again, but to a lesser extent as the severity seems to be linked with the amount of foreplay that occurs and how quickly I am able to whack it to release after the foreplay. So yes, it certainly does exist. Trust us. And don't do that to guys. Don't start or let something happen you're not prepared to finish!

          But the bottomline is: guys do use the excuse of not being able to get off to get women not only to have sex, but also to lose the condoms during sex. But EVERY GUY can jack off in front of you while you smile at him and rub his nuts to get him off and prevent blue-balls without having sex. It's exactly how I dealt with girls who weren't ready for sex as I can be more difficult to get off via a blowjob or handjob unless you're skilled. which takes practice for most. foretunately, all guys are practiced at this...

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            Thank you. I mean, for actually explaining it to me and not just you know, being OMG it so does XD

            I suppose I believed that it was just a lame excuse to get a girl to sleep with a guy but as OP described it, it sounded like that's what he did.

            But still thank you and as I mentioned to Britton, I always finish what I start if I can. I'm no cock-tease lol, I tease but let 'em release, even if that sounds corny XD

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        • assdfghjkl
          12 years ago

          Whatever. Blue Balls is a feeling in your junk. I have a vagina and if I am teased and then left alone I get the "blue balls" feeling.

          and what are you saying "don't do anything you don't want to" - she didn't mention being "talked into" or forced to do anything ... pft, you sound like you wanna be her momma

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  • bdk61950
    11 years ago

    Get a shake weight!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Everyone who does blow jobs sucks at it.

    Think about it.

    Cmon am I really the first person to mention it?

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    You need to combine the two.

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