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I just feel like I'm lost at night so i find myself snuggleing up. she dosent mind but momma is concerned. how can i be more. secure at night?
Who's mamma? You? You're going to want to find a replacement snuggler soon. She'll probably feel like shes too old for that soon.
Its normal! You love her and thats your daughter! If you're thinking about anything else thats like incest its bad but if not?, why not?
Come on now.... I don't know but this just sounds like innocent cuddling to me. Sure, it's not the norm, but definitely not incest.
I don't think you understand what I am saying… I'm not talking about physical sexual contact; what I am talking about is this:
"The term covert incest (also known as emotional incest or psychic incest) is used by some mental health professionals to describe a relationship between parents and children that is sexualized and expects a child to fulfill adult emotional roles, though without actual incest." (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Covert_incest)
While I'd never heard of emotional incest before, I could infer what it meant. I stand by my claim that from what I know, the cuddling is innocent. I don't think it is sexual from what I am hearing, and though this woman should probably seek help to discover why she is feeling so uneasy at night, I don't think that finding comfort in her daughter, a beloved family member, puts her in an adult role.
The real problem here is that she risks turning her daughter into a stress reliever, essentially objectifying her. It is normal for a parent to want to be physically close to their children, especially at that age, but feeling insecure without them near you at night is not emotionally healthy. When I was little, my mother wanted me to take naps with her and snuggle, but it made me feel smothered and uncomfortable. As a result of the pressure she put on me to give her affection, it is difficult for me to be affectionate with women even when I want to be.
unless you have a daughter and assuming you are a man, you cannot judge another man's motives. at the very worst he may be afraid that it is as you say
I suppose. The perverted daughter fetish is still possible though less likely.
If you're a male, then it depends.
If you're thinkin something like " I'm protecting you tonight" it's fine probably. If you're thinking something more like " Mmm.. soft tiny woman.." then that's wrong and get yourself help before your daughter has to.