Is it normal that i still want to be with this girl?

I met this girl online this summer. She goes to my university. We began texting really frequently but we never got around to hanging out. I did run into her twice though. She began telling me about her insecurities. She said that guys have used her for sex, and have treated her badly. I did my best to make her feel better, and I told her I thought she was pretty. She said I was the nicest guy she knows. She said that not a lot of people care about her and it meant a lot that I care. I really thought we were connecting.

Then a few days had past without her responding back to me. When I got a hold of her, and asked her what was up, she nonchalantly said that she's become smitten with this guy, but was still willing to be friends with me. Now after knowing this guy for a week they're officially a couple. At first I refused calling her a hypocrite saying that she can't complain that guys treat her badly when she just ditches someone who was really nice to her right when something better comes along. I didn't even get a chance to go on a date with her. However, I later changed my mind and said that even though she mistreated me it doesn't make her a bad person. That was four days ago and I started with one conversation since then.

Her rejection was a week ago. I've barely spoken to her in real life. She's not even that pretty. Why do I care about her so much? I honestly don't think she's ever going to reach out to me again now that she has a boyfriend and sees no use for me. Is it normal that I still want to talk to her, and can't seem to just forget about it and move on.

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69% Normal
Based on 35 votes (24 yes)
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Comments ( 5 )
  • CateArcher

    Awww... I just want to hug you and give you cookies! Now let the bitch walk, you hear me? Let 'er go!

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  • Suomiman

    Don't give up comrade, I was in the exact same situation for over two years, and just recently, things seem to be going as I hoped. Just give her time.

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  • ginz

    Move On.

    The way I see it, you didn't make your intentions clear at the start. Being nice doesn't always mean "I want to be ur bf" in a girls dictionary. U were nice to her, she saw u as a caring friend. Thus, opening up to u cuz she trusted u.
    U had 2 options: be her friend, or be her man.
    unfortunately u chose to be her friend. if she showed interest in u, u shud have asked her her out soon as possible. there's only so much time until she figures that u r not into her and friendzones u. There's no reason to wait for ur move. if its meant to be, it'll work out.

    If I was wrong and u DID make it clear from the beginning, being flirty and what not, and she STILL rejected u. Then Move On. She doesn't deserve u. If she can't appreciate you and ur caring etc, Move On and find someone who will.

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    • zackattack

      Nah I definitely made it clear I was into her. I told her I thought she was hot multiple times.

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      • ginz

        yeah then she's not worth it >.> she's clearly uninterested. I dunno if its normal or not but I can say u can stop wasting ur time on her cuz u might meet ur soulmate the next day! u never know.

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