Is it normal that i still want to be with my possibly gay/bi friend?

I have been friends with this guy for about 2 years even though it seems like we've known each other our whole lives. He is my best friend. I've had other long relationships in the past but none like this. He is my everything. We talk about getting married and having kids and he's told me that he has always felt that God had put it on his heart to be with me forever and I feel the same way. The only problem is that he had a relationship with another guy. He tried to get out of it multiple times but the other guy was his friend and told him that if he ever left he would kill himself, so naturally my love never left even though he still always thought we were meant to be. We recently discussed this for the first time, even though i suspected it for months. He told me that he is just confused because before this guy pulled him in with all these lies, he never had any homosexual feelings. He's always been physically attracted to women. He told me he wants to be with me and still see's us together with a family in the future, but as long as the guy he was with is around we cant be together. There is just a big wall there. We layed together for hours talking and held each other and rubbed eachother and i even made him hard by just rubbing his thigh. Im so in love with him and he has feelings for me too. Is this normal? Please help us!

oh and the guy he had a secret relationship with is my ex boyfriend of a year and 7 months who claims to be straight but told my love that he is busexual. Could it also be that I'm only attracted to gay guys?

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Comments ( 11 )
  • Riddler

    Well okay he is staying with this other guy out of guilt. You know threatening suicide is the sign of an abusive personality. Threatening suicide is a mean of control since you know the person is stuck with you. They have a special Hotline for people who want to get out of abusive relationships. Maybe you can give him the number.

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  • bleedingundeadheart

    idk

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  • BigKahunaBurger

    Sounds like a case for Jerry Springer.

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    • godislove

      Haha yeah we've been told our lives could be a tv show. God had just been really challenging us lately so things have been like a rollercoaster but we're pushing through. :)

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  • rraydraa

    Is it just me or do you seem to gravitate towards the whole gay=bad thing, because I feel no need or desire to offer advice or even answer your question if that's the case. >.>

    Hope it's just me. Don't mean to sound like a jerk.

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    • godislove

      Yeah it's just you. I seriously reread my post over and over to make sure I didn't come off that way. I have no problem with gay people clearly. Its just hard when the person I love and want to spend the rest of my like with has that one slight attraction. If he ends up being gay or bi or even straight I will love and support him no matter what. As long as he is happy, I can be happy. That's all I want for him. Soo I think you should read my post again and think about where I'm coming from. And thank you @Wreckd :)

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    • wreckd

      It's just you.

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  • Stephanie_87

    Go with it. Nerve endings don't care about gender.

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  • wreckd

    It sounds like he still cares for this other guy. And someone needs to tell Mr. Suicidal that there are other fish in the sea and begging only makes him look pathetic. Don't take this the wrong way but the both of you should really get tested for STD's. Other than that, I hope you guys get rid of him soon. :)

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  • chaosdragoon1

    You need to tell the guy this important line.

    "Walls are MEANT to be CRUSHED." Life is too short to limit yourself with chains.

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    • godislove

      That's great advice and I told him that. It really made him think.

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