Is it normal that i still love a girl that doesn't love me?

I grew up with very few friends and I never made any meaningful connections until I was 15. I only had a slight interest in girls, which caused both family and classmates to claim I was gay, but it was only because I hadn't found any girl that was smart and could make me laugh. In high school I met a girl through Myspace that started talking to me a lot, and I'll admit she bored me like everyone else at first, but after a while I found out she was really smart and funny and I enjoyed talking with someone for the first time and I thought we grew really close (which she actually said herself a few times). I'm not sure when but at some point I pretty much fell in love with her, and as soon as I did problems began. She made it very clear she didn't want anything deeper (I'm still not sure why), and over the course of a few years we had a very confusing on and off friendship. I actually made a few attempts to grow closer to her later on when I was in a better place in life yet she still acted like she was holding back. At some point I grew sick of it and it started bothering me just seeing her so I started looking for reasons to hate her (and I found quite a few unfortunately)...and that caused me to stop talking to her, thinking I could leave her behind and move on. The problem is...I'm here six years later and I haven't really moved on. I still think of her a lot, regardless of how she may have hurt me or the choices she's made. Isn't that stupid? It just seems so wrong that I could still care a lot for her when she made multiple opportunities to show me she didn't feel the same. I've secretly dated since then and talked to numerous girls but none of them have interested me in the way she did. I don't know what to think. Am I stupid for trying to make an awesome friendship turn into love? And is it weird that I still feel the same no matter what the truth may be?

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Yeah; I remember being in the 8th, 9th, and 10th grade and being in love with this guy who I thought was the most beautiful person in the world. He was my all and everything, yet he never loved me back. I didn't even really know him well, and I was too afraid to talk to him. I always stared at him, though, and needless to say, that didn't end well. He thought I was a creep after that. But I know what it's like to be in love with someone who doesn't exchange the love in return.

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    • timone317

      OK...what did you do? Did you get over him at any point? If so, how?

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      • KeddersPrincess

        Yeah; I eventually got over him. He was replaced by another guy. But it takes time.

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  • starkid

    Of course it's normal I don't know why it wouldn't be

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  • cutegalsly

    love me i will love you back hahaha.....anyway ive been in almost a similar situation,my boyfrnd did nothing for me and expected much from me,i felt like he never liked me the way i expected but i got over it,date other people and with time you will find someone better to occupy that space.goodluck

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  • Shackleford96

    Yes, it is normal that you feel this way towards someone you had a strong connection with. No, you are not stupid or anything like that for feeling this way. I understand how you feel. Just give it time, keep searching, and hopefully you will be able to move on. Good luck.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    Man that sounds like some high school bull shit to me. Meet someone new, fuck some bitches, it'll all work out soon enough

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    • timone317

      Hey, if you want to be promiscuous and live a life full of meaningless sex, more power to you, but that doesn't really work for everyone, so your attempt at advice isn't worth anything.

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs

        Dude are you fucking stupid? Just because it doesn't work for you doesn't mean it doesn't work for everyone you imbecile so therefore it is worth something. Cunt.

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        • timone317

          It wasn't worth anything in this question. You really do sound like an outstanding individual, advising me to deal with heartbreak by treating sex as if it's a cheap and simple act. It may not be important at all to you and other people that enjoy multiple partners but it is to some people, including me, so no, what you said wasn't worth anything. "Fuck some bitches"...people like you disgust me.

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          • squeallikeasacofpigs

            Your are fucking pathetic

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            • timone317

              I fail to see what's pathetic about standing up for my beliefs. And forgive me if I don't take offense from a person so undeserving of respect such as yourself. As much as I'd like to continue this enlightening conversation you're coming across as very immature and you clearly have nothing good to say to me so I think I'm done with you. Feel free to continue but you'll be falling on deaf ears.

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