Is it normal that i still like my friend?

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So... hoping I get some replies to this... I'm wanting to see what you all day since what my friends say doesn't seem to help.

It's hard to word!

I was looking at questions about loving your best friend... I'm not quick to jump the gun and say the "L" word because it is a very big deal for me to admit that seeing as we are just friends and she did like me before but I messed up by being overeager.

That was months ago... but she knows I'm still crazy about her and she says she wished she liked me and I really want her to give me another shot but she wants to keep things as friends - I don't get how one day she can give me a shot and kiss me then immediately change everything... but keep me as her closest friend even though she knows it's killing me.

She says shes the best guy I know and she wishes she felt the same - that makes me want to scream "give me another chance"

I know I sound like a sadcase here... feel free to be harsh!

I want to be friends with her but I care about her way too much and we are so close - my friends day I should stop speaking to her but I can't.

So basically... should I keep trying to be friends with this girl that means the world to me? Is it normal that I still like her?

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  • Everythinggoes;)
    13 years ago

    If you really want her, act like you aren't interested anymore and don't act so craxy about her. Girls love it when guys hit on them and everything so if you stop she'll start to get upset that you aren't, want to talk to you more, she might flirt to gwt you to start liking her agin. It works even though it is stupid and you don't want to stop talking to them, just slow down and don't act like she is your main priority because then she will really realize what you meant to her.

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    • Sketchblock
      13 years ago

      yeaaa about that: i feel like if i done that shed just stop talking to me, which means to wrap it all up i should probably stop bothering... c'est la vie =/

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      • Gallieon
        10 years ago

        Look buddy. This might come off as a but rude but unfortunately there's a name for you.. Dick in a glass jar. Break in case of emergency.

        Like her teddy, you get a Lotta hugs, kisses on your
        foreheadhead and it ends there. This guy above you has a point. same method,same result and grovelling isn't helping your cause.

        You really want her, you're gonna have to let her miss you. I mean a hard drop of communication and visual contact. I get the impression that you're the type of guy that's been focused so long on one goal that a shitload of possibilities have skipped right by you. possibly better offers. Maybe those are what you need to give some time while you're literally forgetting her.

        I'm not saying pretend to ignore her. I mean literally forget about the girl. In that time... And believe me it may take a while, she will miss you. Badly. thing is right now all these sweet things she's telling you about you being the best guy she knows may be true but the reason she's actually telling you is to keep you close by... Like a teddy.

        Dude that you don't need. What you do need is to give her time to see you the way you want her to. Not some friend zone locked pal. She won't really appreciate you if you're always there to be taken for granted.

        From what I see you honestly don't have much to loose at this point because honestly, the dissatisfaction of just being her friend is only gonna get worse.

        just don't fear making changes... Even if you think you'll loose her. Let her know you don't need her either. Its a game of chicken, the first to contact the other looses. And even when you do start talking again which may be a while from when you stop ( a good month or two) make sure she earns your replies.

        Speaking from experience. It works. I've been where you are before. The trick is to not pretend you don't care..... Just don't, move on to other things and let her take a back seat.seat. Even if its to video games and comics.

        It'll be worth it three months later when you're personally stripping her down. Good luck.

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        • Sketchblock
          10 years ago

          Ho-ho-holy shit this seems like it was posted a very long time ago for me!

          And since I have the power of anon I'll give you the story.

          I ended up sleeping with her, and everything was great for a few months then it all went tits up, long story short i ended up not speaking to her for years. had 1 girlfriend since that havent even got close to how much i liked her , and slept with 4 others but if it wasnt for her i wouldnt have any approach confidence whatsoever. I'm going to the cinema with her tomorrow (shes just broke up with her boyfriend). I also smoke weed now and have the typical stoner mentality: to be more laid back about my "relationships" and all thing that happen, good or bad, make you into who you are today and if you are happy then it was all just an experience. If that makes sense. Anyway I might try and fuck her tomorrow but I wont care if i get shot down cos shes extremely immature now and obsessed with dresses and tumblr.

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  • haha123
    13 years ago

    I swear that was like reading my life story right there haha. Man, same thing going on with me. For me, I think it's better to be friends and build off of that because you never know what could happen one time if your just hanging out and she feels a connection towards you. Just play it by day, see if her feelings change over time. Girls don't wanna hear the three words "I love you" they'd much rather hear the three words "your worth it" of she's really worth it you will wait for her forever. Hope this helped man.

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    • Sketchblock
      13 years ago

      yea man i kinda posted this after a 2 hour conversation with her where it all got brought up again and i got shot down again... i dont like the idea of floating around some girl waiting for her to change her mind and continuing to feel like that... but at the same time the idea of stopping hanging around with her is lame when i could just "man up" but thats all easier said than done. but yea thanks for getting back to it!! :D :D

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