Is it normal that i still feel for my crush after 3 years?

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Few years ago I met a girl, fell in love, asked her to be in a relationship with me, got totally friendzoned and that is now 2 (almost 3) years ago already.

I can't seem to get her off my mind although I rarely see her. Maybe three or four times a year. We do text weekly though. When texting I'm not making it a secret I still like her. I might not say it literaly, but I do flirt. She reacts very little on it. And I think I could be just a friend if that was it.

But on the rare occassions we do see each other, I get a totally different girl. We hold hands, can just smile at each other and not speak a word. I held her close to comfort her. Even get flirty responses to my flirty comments. Share drinks and foods.

I still dream everyday that maybe, just maybe, one day it will work out. And it drives me insane.

Can I (and should I) tell her again that I still feel for her? Should I break up the friendship? I dont know what to do, but this can't go on...

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  • driedroses
    10 years ago

    I think you should tell her how you feel when you're in person. And, if she goes along with it when you're together AND away, then that's great. If not, just forget about her. Find another girl to be romantic with, because liking her isn't worth losing a friendship.

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    She seems to want to be friends with you and enjoy spending time with you, and the freedom to be able to be "flirty" since neither of you has significant others, I'm assuming (because that would be really effed up). If it's going to happen, it'll happen. Chilling and finding something else to think about, like self-improvement in something you are not dependent on another person for to feel good about yourself, would be the best way to achieve your goal here.

    If she wants you, she'll show it in a way where you won't be confused about any mixed signals. If you "wait just in case" , hoping for more and wondering while you're with her, you're not enjoying her company and the friendship for what it realistically is. If it's too much for you to just accept the possibility that you're just friends and leave it at that, stop being friends with her, at least for a little while. She should be understanding of that. If you want to dial down the physical, etc., that should help as well. Since she seems to be enjoying it she'll certainly miss and want it when you withhold it and your attention/availability from her. (Immature) girls are strange creatures.

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  • Phishy
    10 years ago

    I think that you should ask her again some time when you're ready. And if she refuses, then the best thing (in my opinion) would be to break off the friendship altogether. Since you two are still interacting with one another, it's only keeping her on your mind more.

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