Is it normal that i still feel depressed about sex after 3 months?

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I lost my virginity to my best friend 3 months ago. I'm 18. I haven't had sex again and don't plan on it for a long time. Maybe a few years even. I don't know, I was pressured into it, but at the same time I promised him earlier that I would have sex with him, just to get it over with. I put myself in the situation. Very stupid.

And I felt so guilty that for the past few months I tried to push him away. I just wanted to be alone. I cried thinking about how I'm not a virgin anymore. I just feel worthless thinking that I let him go all the way. . . I still cry even after three months. Most of the time I'm fine, but at night it hits me. Its not that I don't have sexual desires, because I definitely do. but at the same time, I realize how depressed it made/makes me feel. I don't want a relationship at all anymore. I want to be alone. I don't want any kind of sexual relationship. It depresses the hell out of me. I could honestly go the rest of my life without having sex again, to be honest.

So is this a normal reaction or should I talk to someone? be respectful. This is a painful part of my life. Thanks :)

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  • bleach_baby
    11 years ago

    That's really, really sad. I would talk to someone in order to get support for this and to hopefully prevent it from interfering with your future relationships and sex life. It sounds to me like you feel that you have been used in the most basic way and that's an awful feeling. I'd definitely talk to someone. Good luck

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  • Naamah
    11 years ago

    I think that it is NOT normal at all. I suppose that some women may react this way but they definitely have a problem with their sexuality, attitude to sex and ability to enjoy sex. It is true that not all sexual experiences that people have are super hot but sex in general should be pleasurable and a healthy reaction is to enjoy sex - not to cry over it.

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    • rissainchains
      11 years ago

      I understand what you're saying and I agree on some level, but this sexual experience was not enjoyable at all. There was no pleasure, there was literally physical pain. He didn't listen to me at all, he didn't care that it was my first time and that he was literally hurting me. I was sore for days. I know your first time will hurt, but this hurt a lot more than average.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal that you feel that way due to the fact that you weren't ready.

    You need to get over it though. Don't let it ruin your life and prevent you from having future relationships!

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    I think it is normal for a girl. Almost all girls act this way for some reason. No offense, but do you own a cat or plan on owning cats? This sounds like how my ex-girlfriend was. She always insists she will be an old cat lady in her life time. Just share sex with the person you truly love and get married to.

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    • rissainchains
      11 years ago

      Haha, yeah I love cats! My friends are convinced that I will be a cat person.

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      • PapzBSlim
        11 years ago

        Lol I had a feeling. Just be open to the next relationship and express your self to your next lover about how you feel for sex. I do hope you eventually enjoy the act and have a healthy future, Remember to always practice safe sex.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    its oky, my first time and second (same person) was super shitty, and it like a black mark on my limited sex life. that why i do want to have sex unless it part of a relationship, random sex did nothing for meafter the like 10 mins

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