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I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. He's the best thing to ever happen to me, and no one has ever treated me the way he does. He's incredible, and just the thought of breaking up with him makes me feel physically sick. The thing is.. I don't LOVE him.
Is this normal? I don't know what to do >_<
I think you need to separate the Hollywood romantic comedies and romance novel perception of what love is and understand it from a real world perspective.
If the thought of breaking up with him makes you "physically" sick, you certainly have strong feelings for him.
Great answer.
Love takes a while and I know I've never felt it before but it normally is a different feeling than you expect it to be from what I've heard. Like how djpatties stated it, it's not like that romantic crap from the movies.
Its so unrealistic, but so MANY people really think thats what real life is like for some reason....
Yes I don't get it.
I just never pay attention to media much. I really don't like chick flicks all that much just because it's fake. But I admit once I start watching them I think about how cutesie it is but I still know thats not what it's like. I've even met guys who think that is how love is suppose to be like; nope... lol
Love isn't instantaneous; sorry people.
probably because he doesn't treat you like shit.
women only fall in love with guys who treat them like shit.
Many women choose men misinterpreting them acting like jerkoffs as being "confident". I have seen it plenty.
While its not cut in stone, women sometimes take it for granted when a guy comes along that does treat them well. Take heed not to be one of them.
you're entitled to your opinion. As am I.
That's the only reasonable explanation.
have you ever been in love? If so, did he treat you better or worse than the current guy?
I'm not trying to offend you or anything.
Hmm.
Maybe you just experience love differently than what you expected?
I assume everyone experiences it differently. You could be in love with him.
It's possible you're comparing it to a movie or something that's been explained to you, and since it's not exactly the same, you're misinterpreting it as something other than love?
idk.
If it makes you feel sick to break up then you obviously DO love him. If you didn't love him you wouldn't give 2 shits.
It's kinda funny reading the 1st part, you basically explain your love for him, then say you don't love him. Maybe you just haven't ralized it yourself yet? There's a difference between love and lust m'dear. If you aren't "Omg I want to touch him all the time" It doesn't mean you don't love him :P
I think this is great!
You have met a lovely guy and you are having a great time. What more could you want? You don't need to split up with him and there's no-one else you'd rather be with, so what's the problem?
I presume you're not planning to get married for another lot of years, so worry about how you feel then.
I was like this with my husband, he was cute and sort of grew on me. The next thing I knew, we had been together 6 years!! We've been happily married more than 20 years now.
Chill out and laugh every day :o)
I was in the exact situation not that long ago.
I think yoo should let him go... it sounds like yoo need a friend not a boyfriend & yoo may have taken the friendship too the next level confusing the friendship for love, its a tough thing too do but yoo will feel better eventually (: x