Is it normal that i still blame myself for my mum's death...

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Is it normal that I still blame myself for my mum's death, even though I had no involvement in it (she died of Septicemia) and it was 10 years ago.
I originally blamed myself because the last time I saw her before she died, I didn't say goodbye.
But now I look back and blame myself for not doing enough; being supportive, and doing anything I could have done.
I want to talk to someone about it, but I don't want to bring down those around me.
I still get days were I just want the world to swallow me up, and have often thought what it would be like if I had died instead of her.
I'm not on here looking for acceptance, I'm looking for someone to talk to, and to help me relief some of these feelings.

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  • LostSoul22
    10 years ago

    It's not your fault. Perhaps you could visit her grave, or maybe a favorite place she liked to go to on her birthday.
    Take flowers to her gave, maybe talk to her tell her things that you have accomplished or things you plan on doing. Even though you can't physically see her to talk to her doesn't mean you have to stop. A lot of people do it, more then you'd think. Enjoy life doing things that you like to do. I'm pretty sure your mom wouldn't want you to feel like this. She would probably want you to enjoy life and all it has to offer.

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  • betternowty
    10 years ago

    It can't be your fault. You didn't cause her to have a medical condition that led to her being brought to a doctor or hospital and they couldn't save her life. Many times children blame themselves for their parent's death, but it is not right. When the negativity starts to come up in your mind, ask yourself: Did you plan this? Did you plan to cause her to have Septicemia and for her to die? No? Then how on earth can it possibly be your fault? It's not your fault.

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  • Short&2thepoint
    10 years ago

    Could be worse. I told a friend of mine to go die in anger. Then she did.

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