Is it normal that i sometimes want bad things to happen to me

Well I've survived sexual abuse, six murder attempts, a fire and a friend's suicide and I can STILL relate to how you feel.

I had the same thoughts about my parents in my teens and I figured it was a symbolic urge for independence thing. I have wished to be punched at quite a few times in my life, usually when life is going well but there's something petty like a work deadline quietly stressing me out. It's like I want to take all that everyday low level stress and focus it into one punch that'll hurt but be over in a second. Either that or I just want something more obviously valid to complain about than a 2000 word assignment.

Sometimes I want to get hurt for more pathological reasons - a sense that I deserve it, a need to be more like my dead friend, or a need to end the anxiety of 'waiting for the other foot to fall' - but I don't get the impression reasons like these are relevant to your case.

A sense of guilt about ones blessings can in itself lead to a desire to suffer, of course. I remember sitting in a room with a group of tall, young, white, straight, able-bodied, middle-class men as they complained on and on about short men, black people, gay people, women, the disabled, old people and the poor, while I sat trying to work out why they were all such jerks. Then I picked up on the amount of self-loathing in the room and realised they all just felt extremely guilty about their good luck at holding the perfect hand for material success. I suspect any one of those guys would have found a serious misfortune something of a relief on at least some level. I suspect NOT finding such a relief in unaccustomed misfortune can indeed point to and exascerbate some of the more problematic 'personality disorders'.

As for wanting your life to be like a book, the heroic struggle is something celebrated in every culture I've ever heard of. The hero needs his obstacles and who deep down doesn't want to be a hero? On that level, of course you want your life to be like a book.

Finally, DES has offered to trade his/her rollercoaster for your dull stability. If you could, I'd say don't trade: I've ridden the rollercoaster and it really is hell. Dull stability is better, but still not great. What both of you need is some middle ground: general stability but with some interesting punctuation.

I understand what you mean, but my mom did drugs and we had a whole terrible experience (actuallly quite a few) and you definitely don't want to wish for something bad to happen. I know what you mean, though. But don't 'hope' for something bad to happen, k?

My life is freaking roller coster and I hate it I would love to have a family I'll trade my crap roller coster for your boring one any day

I feel pretty much the same way. i see people with shit lives and am kinda jealous. it just sounds really bad when its typed or said.

im not sure why we both think like that, its weird

it just sounds like you need some damn fun, thats how good little boys and girls end up drinking and doing drugs, then you steal, get arrested, lose some good friends, gain some bad ones and just wish you had your boring life back

Nothing wrong with fantasizing, as someone else pointed out, just don't "wish or hope" for bad things to happen to people. There is a difference. If by chance you start doing things to yourself to gain attention, like purposely hurting yourself to the point of needing medical attention, then you will have crossed a line that you will never be able to come back from. People often create "drama" in their lives as a way to cope with their own misery. It is a very fine line my friend, and it sounds like you may be headed that way already. Thinking about it is ok, just don't act on it!

You want excitement and attention in your life

Haha I'm totally the same way. I've had reasonably good luck my whole life, but I just wish that something awful would happen to me. I'm not sure why. But, in answer to your question, I'd say that (at least for us) it is normal. Hope I helped.

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I think about it all the time. No one wants a boring life so it's normal for you to think about those kind of things.

I often wonder the same kinda things but I don't hope for them, those are two different things

so you like extreme so what? its pretty normal, i also think about those things sometimes but my life is pretty shitty. normal.