Is it normal that i sometimes dislike the idea of family?
To be clear, this is from a Christian perspective and I'm a female.
The Biblical family structure is like so:
Children are to obey their parents in everything. Wives are to submit to their husbands in everything, and be keepers at home.
Husbands are not to provoke their children to wrath. They're also supposed to love their wives and not be bitter against them. They're to provide for the family.
My problem is mainly with how restrictive this dynamic is. Once you're part of a family, especially if you're a child, like me, or a woman, it is very difficult to leave if things get bad, even if you're capable of providing for yourself.
There seems to be this aspect of forced dependence on the head of the house, that can serve as a breeding ground for mistreatment and resentment.
As you might've guessed, I come from a family that tried to follow these rules, and tons of awful things happened to us. The man of the house can easily oppress his wife and children.
Perhaps his actions will not go unpunished by God, but it is a fact that much damage and suffering has been caused by giving one person total control over the family.
I have approximately zero interest in marrying. I might've wanted children, but that's not okay without a husband.
I hate it when people drag others around on their whims. They've probably never thought for a second how difficult that makes life for people like me.
Well, I'm sick of the family stuff, and one of my few desires is simply to live alone. Get married? Date? For what?