Is it normal that i skipped the "just a fling" stage

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I'm a 21 year old male and I've never had the desire for sex just because I can (not to say I don't have desire but I want all the intimacy and commitment with it not just carnal rutting) and have vowed to remain a virgin until I'm married, but this has caused me to feel like I'm inadequate so I now fear even trying to find a girl to have a relationship with thinking they will assume its all a cover for my inability, not because it was a choice. So is it normal that my desire to do what I feel is right has inadvertently caused me so much grief?

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  • zchristian
    12 years ago

    Waiting till marriage can be a good idea because you will know that your relationship builds on much more than just sex...

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      I don't follow that logic at all. I can't imagine someone getting married, then finding out the only thing they had in common was good sex. I have, however, heard of people waiting until they were married and finding out that they weren't compatible sexually. I'm not saying it's not an admirable goal, just that it's not what I'd consider part of a formula for success.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    I had a serious relationship with a guy in your situation. I believed him and didn't doubt his explanation. It seemed like a legitimate situation. Don't worry about it. :)

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    It's normal to feel like people will think of you that way, but that's the same as people fearing they will look bad naked. You just have to stop and have a little confidence in yourself!~ You've made the choice for yourself, and theres definately going to be a girl out there that respects you greatly for that. If she doesn't, then you holding out is ruling out alot of bad girls out of your life anyways. :) Good decision

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    you're young still.

    it's ok to hold out for a girl worth being with.

    i mean ... when you desire steak why settle for a burger? sure the burger will satisfy hunger but it just won't taste as good as the steak you want

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You're still very young so don't worry about the thoughts of the immature females that you are meeting at the moment.

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  • steph678
    12 years ago

    There should be millions more men out there like you! Don't doubt yourself for anyone!

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    If a girl doesn't think your abstinence is outright cute/sexy then she's not the right girl for you. Don't settle for a critical bitch who's only thought is "whats wrong with him?".

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