Is it normal that i seem to feel this way?

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So, I cannot get my husband to be honest with me about anything! He goes around behind my back and lies to me. I've told that if he were to be honest with me about shit i would not care as much that he did what ever he did. I really hate that he lies to me and throws me under the bus. He does things and tries to hide that he did it. i do check history and other stuff to see of he really is telling me the truth which i know can tick him off, but i wouldn't do it if wouldn't lie to me. Im also finding that he does a lot of stuff that i have asked him not to do. Im hurt. I kinda dont wanna even be with him and its the day before Christmas. is it normal for me to not even care that Christmas is tomorrow and really just want him to leave???

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Explain to him how you feel and threaten to leave. If after all the explaining and threats, his behavior keeps us, then leave.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    We're hearing one side - which is not to say you are misleading or he's off the hook - but could there be anything you are doing? Is this new behaviour? Is this some way of him creating his own private space away from you? Or is he playing hurtful games, or for that matter - up to shit he doesn't want you to know about?

    Marriage counselling may help get underneath what may just be a big failure in trust and communication between you two, or perhaps is something else. I think you should try that if you haven't but agree otherwise that secrecy and lies destroy trust and marriage. Good luck.

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    Under the bus?

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  • mitochondria
    11 years ago

    I'm not saying he's right, but I am saying it's possible that at this point he's basically gone, "Well, What-the-fuck-ever. If I'm going to be monitored 24-fucking-7 I might as well do whatever I want since there will be a shitstorm regardless."

    That's basically how the relationship with the people I live with is. I have absolutely zero privacy in my house, so I constantly do shit I know they don't like because I've asked them to give me more privacy and they simply do not care to. (Yes, I know, immature.)

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  • kittylitter101
    11 years ago

    Give him an ultimatum.

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  • question1522
    11 years ago

    give him a box for christmas and inside it say stuff u ur dumped

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  • question1522
    11 years ago

    if he gives u shit/lies stuff that moron

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    Here's what you can do:
    Tell as many people as you know and trust what kind of things he does and how he treats you.
    Ask them to help you. Provide them with as much information on his habits as you can (where he goes, what he does, when he does it, etc.).
    Ask them to ask others to help also.
    Ask them to devise a legal plan to cause his untimely death (unfortunate accident, death due to misadventure, etc.).
    Ask them to do this without your knowledge.
    Ask them to please not do anything that will cause an injury (good clean kill) nor to do anything that jeopardizes public safety.
    Find a new husband / partner who will treat you well.

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