Is it normal that i see a therapist and won't tell anyone?

Yes and you are very lucky that you've been able to keep it a secret. I wanted to keep everything about my new therapist a secret. The gender, her name, where the office was, etc. But no! For safety concerns, it seems that I'll have to tell someone, that someone being my mother. It's better her knowing then a certain someone else, though. However, I'll fight to the death to keep my reasons for seeing her a secret.

I've decided that I want to go to see a psychologist as I have a few things on my mind which I want to be able to discuss with someone who is not close to me, and someone who is an expert & trained in human behaviour, who may be able to offer opinions and advice. I am what most people would perciave to be an extremely well rounded and stable person, almost everything in my life is going really well, except for one thing, and it occupies my thoughts constantly.

I have a fantastic life, great job, social life, friends, family etc etc etc, however I'm in my mid 20's and apart from when I was 18 I have never had a proper girlfriend. I have loads of female friends, more than almost any guy I know, I am very close to them and they hold me very dearly, but every time I find a women I like, we end up just being friends. I am sick of it. There is no logical reason that in all this time just one of them would like me in the same way, but what always happenes to me is either they just want to be friends or somehting else gets in the way.

Unfortunately this is somehting I am not confortable discusing with friends etc and this is why I want to see a psychologist to help me get a better understanding of myself and how I can addres this issue. The thing is I have no idea who to go about this. I want to make sure I go to someone who is specifically experienced in these types of matters and that I feel confortable with.

I had a look here: http://psyonline.tk but I'm still not sure exactly what type of psychologist I should be aiming for.

I was wondering if anyone here can offer some advise as to how I can take this one stage further, as I have been considering doing this for a very long time and now I finally want to go and do it.

Thanks

I've told people I'm in therapy, but I am selective who I tell. It's totally normal if you don't tell people as well.

if i needed a therapist i wouldnt want people knowing

I saw one a long time ago. I made the mistake of telling a couple of friends. They aren't my friends anymore. I guess it's best though. True friends will stick by you.

What type of person should we 'expect' to visit a therapist? Someone drooling or screaming at trees? Oh wait no, most people that see therapists have anxiety issues and look just like you and I !
So please, get off your high horse, YOU are a person that sees a therapist. Geez.

Anyway, whether or not to tell people you are seeing a therapist is primarily a personal decision.

Why would you be embarrassed about this?

I have anxiety-depression only one friend knows. You need to be careful who you trust with this sort of thing. Don't worry, normal. Good to hear you're getting help =]

I think I need a therapist. My parents also think I need one. But it's normal if you don't want to tell anyone. It's just one of those things you would like to keep to yourself.

I think people are so reluctant to tell people they are seeing a therapist because then they may be labeled as 'crazy'.

I think it is fine to not tell people you are seeing a therapist. Some people will just see it as a kink in your armour that they can exploit which is not what you need. It is your business.
People who are genuinely there for you may be those that you might want to tell in the future, but even then they can go tell someone else and on an on and it can quickly go round the town...
So if you are at all unsure that you want everyone to know your business, then keep it to yourself.

It's really no ones business.

I didn't tell my father for a year because he doesn't belive in it, And I still live under his roof. And even then it kind of slipped out.