Is it normal that i rush into sex before getting to know someone?

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Whenever I meet someone that could be a potential significant other, I always tend to rush into doing sexual intercourse just to leave THAT thing out of the “getting to know” process.

It is not that I am easy, or at least I don’t think so, but I am aware that guys can’t really be honest and can’t concentrate in a relationship if they haven’t reached the sex part, so I tend to rush into that and then start to get to know that person deeper and deeper.
It has worked so far, as I had like 2 very serious relationships, but I am wondering if this could lead to other people thinking that I am easy and I just want to have sex.

I just don’t want guys to mess around with me just to have sex, as I don’t want to break my heart. So that’s why “I get that done” to be sure that if he stays, it is for more than just sex.
What do you think?

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    "I am aware that guys can’t really be honest and can’t concentrate in a relationship if they haven’t reached the sex part"
    Where did you get that prefabricated bullshit idea from?
    You can totally concentrate and be honest in a relationship even when you haven't reach the sex part, if the girl is worth it.

    Since you have sex with them, how do you know they do not stay with you for sex?

    This is stupid to rush things. You should have sex with a person when you feel it's the right time to, whether it's 1 week or 1 year, it all depends on the person. There's no rule.
    Your insecurity about being able to make a man love you for more than your body will make you miserable if you keep this way of thinking.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    If someone isn't good in the sack, I'd keep it moving.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    I mean your onto something in my opinion but this also could be something you regret. This all depends on how quick your definition of "rushed" is. Is it after 3 or 4 dates or is it "High, it's really nice to meet you. Would you pull down your pants real quick?"

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      No, it is never quick like that.
      Maybe 4-5 dates and if someone asks me on the first, never happened, I won’t do it.

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Wow. That's not rushed at all in my opinion. I think your fine tbh.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    Don't give sex too fast. Make him wait for it! That is a big mistake.

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  • Fionalady
    4 years ago

    You mentioned 5 dates and it's not rushed imo, when you said ruche I imagined you were having drunk sex with randoms or banging all your friends and colleagues. The point is: you like being this way? Are you happy? Just don't have sex because you feel forced to. If you want to keep things slower you can. If it's working for you having sex after 5 dates, so keep going.

    There's no rule for it unless you are acting like trailer park trash and is too messy or needy of sex. This doesn't seem to be the case.

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  • Holzman_67
    4 years ago

    Sounds great to me if a little premeditated

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  • McBean
    4 years ago

    If the first two dates are okay, the third date is about right for sex.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Fast sex is good sex. Sometimes I am so fast with my wife that smoke starts coming out of her vagina.

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    • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
      4 years ago

      that smokes just from yall wakin up the homeless crackheads that camp there

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