Is it normal that i rejected a girl because she was bipolar?
I have been friend with this girl for a few years now. She is really kind, we have a great connection and we can truly talk for hours and hours. We really think alike in most situations and we never get into conflict. She confessed to me a few days ago, but I got really afraid and rejected her inmediately. The thing is that she is bipolar, one of the worst cases I have ever seen.
Usually, she behaves normal, but when her mood swings strike, she can be a little obnoxious. Even during her manic phases she is unbearable.
When she is "happy" she is very impulsive and has the weirdest whims, like going out to very specific places, eating certain foods or hanging out with certain people. This is not bad by itself, but the thing is that she "has" to get what she wants when she is in this phase, even if it involves making people cancel their appointments, driving for hours or spending a lot of money. If she doesn't get what she wants, she instantly begins to pout like a kid and enters her depressive state.
Her depressive days aren't any better. Sometimes I don't hear about her for weeks. She gets inside her room and locks herself for days. She has lost many jobs already because of this and has even delayed her thesis for years. Me and my other friends always try to cheer her up, but nothing seems to work when she is like this.
Her problem is also that she is already 30 and is very insecure about her appearance. There is nothing wrong with her appearance and she doesn't look 30 at all... but apparently she has very high expectations, it seems like she kind of wants to be the perfect skinny blond girl. And well, basically, no one in my group can ever talk about any other girls, because she gets kind of jealous and start feeling depressed right away. We can't even talk about models or actresses!
She is going through treatment, but I don't really feel like she is 100% commited. She drinks a lot of alcohol, she usually doesn't get drunk, but she drinks many times a week. She also doesn't work hard enough to gain stability in her life, as I said, she constantly looses jobs for no reason. As an extra, she always tell every single person she knows that she is bipolar as soon as they meet, and I suspect she does that to gain inmunity in case she does something bad while in her mood swings.
Well, I was wondering if it was right to reject her just because of this. I know that she is a great person, it is just this illness that makes her act like this. People have also told me that maybe if I get into a relationship with her she might get better... But I personally don't feel like taking that risk. On the other hand... I have my own problems as well (chronic depression) and I have enough taking care of myself, I don't have energy enough to take care of another person.
TLDR: This great girl is bipolar, but I rejected her because she gets unbearable during her mood swings and I don't want to look after a person while I have problems on my own.
So, is it normal?