Is it normal that i refused to forgive people who bullied me

I think you are in your rights to not forgive them, but I don't think you have to forgive them in order to let it go. Just don't let it consume your mind, grudges are heavy things. Move on with your life. I think though, that if a bully seeks you out personally to apologize to you, then you should forgive them. But that's just me I'm forgiving in nature so that's what I believe. I was bullied in high school as well and a few of my bullies ended up apologizing to me and I got alot of closure out of being able to forgive them. I suppose it also depends on the degree of bullying. Nobody deserves to be a victim and I'm sorry that it happened to you.

So you are stalking your bullies on Facebook and demanding they apologize? I think you are barking up the right tree. They probably don't remember you exist or don't care. Its really stupid to expect people like this to suddenly come back and apologize. They were assholes than why do you believe they changed? You need to get over it already and stop being such a baby. You are acting like a four year old. The world doesn't work like preschool.

Same story. But forgiving them even though they haven't apologized to you is much better because it means you're giving up yourself to be right and more matured.

if you won't forgive them, you'll only harbor hatred for them. you're harboring hatred.

so what if they don't care?

it's you that loses, holding it against them.

It depends on what you believe. I don't forgive bullies even if they apologise, unless l can tell they are not wearing a shroud over their emotions. I would let it go, but if anyone does apologise, try and determine if they are honest, or if they have ulterior motives or sarcasm where there should be regret. If you can't tell, say you forgive them. You don't have to mean this; just say it if you receive mixed signals.

Yeah in the case of bullies it's less about forgiving and more about figuring out those people and their opinions are wrong and moving on.

There might be some that remember but are too embarrassed to connect with you. People are cowardly. I got it over it mostly just because I realize we are all human, and kids do terrible things easily. I don't know what they did to you but you're better off just letting it go if you can, if you want to. Don't expect an apology but if one comes your way I think you should take it, because no one would unless they really meant it.