Is it normal that i really can't tolerate other peoples children?

Hi all, I'm 24 and wondering if how I'm feeling is normal.

I currently live in a cul-de-sac that consists of about 12 houses altogether. It's a nice house and they're all new build houses. But as per usual, anything too good to be true normally ends up turning into a nightmare.

I can't tolerate the neighbours kids. They're constantly playing in the front drive, which I wouldn't mind if they didn't leave chalk drawings on there. I often go outside and their toys are left in the front garden, I've been tempted to throw them away before now but decided that's not a nice thing to do. So I leave them in the middle of the path off the drive for them to pick up the next day.

There's a gap between the houses, which echoes really loudly. So they decided to run down there screaming and stamping their feet. This can sometimes last for a few hours.

They play football quite often and the ball will bounce off the front door, and sometimes their pushable scooters go into the front door as well.

I can hear certain parents screaming at their kids, to absolutely no avail. Their kids don't care and it pisses me off.

The only problem I've got is that I don't rent the house. My parents do. And they've had enough of it but are too nice to do anything about it. I'd go out and say something happily but it's not my house so I've been told not to get involved.

So I've decided that I'm going to go to university. I'm starting an access to higher education course in September 2015, and will be off to university September 2016. Mainly because minimum wage doesn't pay enough to rent even a 1 bedroom flat. So getting a good education and becoming successful has been my main priority.

However... I'm trying to study and yet all I can hear is kids screaming and parents screaming at their kids who scream back with more screaming to top that up.

This can last from 3pm - 9pm at night sometimes. Now the summer is drawing ever nearer, I fear this is going to become a nightmare.

All I want to do is study, go to university and get away from the screaming kids and their screaming parents.

Is it normal to be this frustrated and angry at the kids and their parents. Because it seems to me that their parents have pretty much lost control of their kids.

I hope that one day I'll earn enough money so that I don't have to live around other peoples children and can live a peaceful life.

Is this unreasonable ? Because at the moment I feel like plugging in about 4 x 100 watt speakers in the middle of the cul-de-sac from 3pm - 9pm and blasting every single disturbed album as loud as I can. So that I can disturb all of them for a change past the point that they can't take it.

I also feel that eventually you wont be able to move anywhere without being surrounded by kids. Which is fine if you have kids of your own. But if you're someone who doesn't have much tolerance for them like me, your're screwed. I'm forced to tolerate other peoples noisy kids. Also if you're not a "kid person" you're somehow assumed to be a bad person.

If kids actually got disciplined properly, this wouldn't happen. It just seems that my generation especially don't seem to know how to discipline their kids.

Am I the only one who feels like my life is being affected by other peoples life choices ?

My lifestyle choice doesn't affect anyone. I sit and study all day and work part time on weekends. (Not because I'm lazy, I've worked since I left school lol. But I'm re-sitting my maths exam so I'm making the most of the time I've got before I start college in september.)

If I want to listen to music I put headphones in and if I need to do any house work that could be noisy. I make sure it's done in the afternoon so as not to wake people up at night.

Maybe I'm just a grumpy young man ? Or maybe there are other people who feel the same haha

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  • Ellenna

    Assuming it's your parents who've told you not to get involved, doesn't the noise bother them too?

    If you can't talk to the kids or their parents to bring about change you're left with limited options to change how you respond to it. I can only suggest earplugs. Sorry, that's all I can come up with: glad I'm not in your situation, I'd be totally crazy after a week of that

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    • isitright123

      The noise does bother them, although they're too nice to complain. They said they like seeing kids happy, but even for them it's a bit much.

      I have started putting ear plugs in with quiet music in the background whilst I study. It's not ideal but it's a makeshift fix. I've only until next August / September of which I should be in college most days. So hopefully I wont be here as much as I am now.

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      • Bluey_neilo

        I think there are proper ear plug pieces designed just for blocking out noise, that should help a lot! http://www.silentear.com/
        something like that should do the job. Good luck studying!

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      • Ellenna

        I'm glad you can see an end to it, even if it is months off, but I feel for your poor parents if they have to put up with this for years and years. With any luck they'll stop being so "nice" and talk to the kids' parents, but if I were them I'd be doing it sooner rather than later

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  • JD777

    That's why I bought my current house away from the "families with little kids" developments.

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  • penisprisoner

    Especially those god damn Hispanic children that always trash the super market

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpxKz1IwmFk

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    • isitright123

      lol crazy stuff bud :P

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  • Riddler

    You made a decision to live where children are and children play. If you wish them not to be on your property you can complain to the parents and ask them not to vandalize your stuff.

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  • RoseIsabella

    This is why I LOVE living in a gated community with an HOA! Ugh, sorry you're having this problem, keep studying hard. My family isn't rich, we just have a couple of townhouses, and my sister has a condo. I LOVE peace and quiet!

    Living here in the desert at night time the streets are full of wild rabbits which I'd much rather see than kids any day of the week!

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    • isitright123

      Very jealous haha wish I was in a similar situation :) Glad to hear that it's not just me who loves peace and quiet.

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      • RoseIsabella

        You're very welcome! I don't hate or dislike children but I enjoy privacy, peace and serenity. I think often times people have an assumption that it's entirely improper to discipline their children, whereas I am of the opinion that what's improper is to not teach children manners. What you described about this cul-de-sac situation sounds quite to me like a child equivalent of a neighborhood where dogs and cats are allowed to roam free with no regard to leash laws. Ideally I think young people ought to play sports like football in an appropriate places such as a park on a team. Perhaps there is no decent park available nearby or the parents in the neighborhood are poor and unable to afford the time and money it takes to shuttle them back and forth to such activities. My sister and I were lucky as we had the chance to attend various extracurricular activities.

        Regardless my heart goes out to you, and I encourage you to keep up the good work with your studies, and rise above your circumstances.
        :-)

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        • isitright123

          I agree with you completely :) Manners don't cost much and teaching them to respect other people's things never hurts.

          There is a park in the town which isn't that far from the actual cul-de-sac. About a 10 minute walk so nothing too taxing.

          I guess that the parents just find it easier to let them play outside the front of the houses.

          If they weren't so loud I wouldn't mind so much haha, but simply isn't the case :)

          And thanks. I'll just keep my head in the books and 12 months from now I'll hopefully be on my way to uni.

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  • isitright123

    If it was just chalk drawings and nothing else, I wouldn't mind. But they only do it on our drive lol. They've got their own drives to chalk on yet for some reason they choose not to. They're nothing in particular just doesn't look very nice.

    Lol perhaps a little grumpy, but then again I'm not a kid fan so probably why I'm so grumpy lol.

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  • howaminotmyself

    Culs-de-sac give a false sense of community. They suck. You don't actually have any investment into the well-being of those who live near you. Once you start to care about overall contentment, you start to accept the annoying behaviors of others. You are in this together. But that's not how it works in these manufactured communities.

    Although I'm a little concerned that chalk drawings bother you. Are they drawing caricatures of your mom sucking cock? Most kids soend too much time inside. It is refreshing to hear that some still play outside.

    And your life will always be effected by the choices of others. Children or no, get use to it. You may rhink you dont effect others, but you make purchases and dont kive off the grid.

    Yes, yes. I believe you are grumpy. Maybe invest in a condo that is made up of all one bedrooms. Children don't typically live there.

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