Is it normal that i probably need to have one night stands to orgasm

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Female, in my 30s
In the past, I had long term relationships with 2 men and the sex was really bad, for years, I could not orgasm through penetrative sex with them. It was really frustrating. I could orgasm on my own though.
Then I was single and celibate for many years until 2 days ago when I met a total stranger, a tourist from another country, and on the spur of the moment, I had sex with him!!! It was my very first one night stand and I can't really understand why because I was always AGAINST such things, I somehow managed to have an orgasm with him even if it was just sex, no emotional attachment. We didn't even have oral sex but he made me co me really hard through penetration and I really enjoyed it so much for the first time in my life but I felt so dirty and sick afterwards.
He even asked for my number and wanted to see me again but I told him ''no'' because I felt like a whore and I wanted to hide my face from everyone. I am so ashamed for this.
Am I some sort of weirdo? Do I have a need for casual sex to be able to orgasm or was this just a coincidence? Could it be that he was just a very good lover unlike my boyfriends and that's why I orgasmed or is it because I get turned on with the idea of dirty sex?

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  • Gspyder
    8 years ago

    It's more likely that you hadn't found a guy that could do it for you prior to that. You shouldn't feel guilty either.

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  • harukim
    8 years ago

    there is no reason to feel guilty about your experience. the most likely source of your dilemma is that your earlier boyfriends were not skillful. Please, please forget any notion that you are a 'whore'. It is them, not you.

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