Is it normal that i pretend someone is next to me when i sleep?

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Ever since I was like 12/13 (20 now) I've gone through phases of pretending that my current crush/guy I fancy is next to me in bed going to sleep. I imagine situations I might be in with him and sort of act the conversations out in my head, but hug 'him' when I go to sleep. It makes me feel happier and less alone...

Is it normal? Or am I schizophrenic or something??

I'm pretty sure I'm suffering from mild depression at the moment, loneliness being a fairly dominant part of my problem currently so that's why I'm thinking about this more.

I've never been in a proper relationship, which I think is why I crave it so much, but I just really want to know that I'm not insane, and hopefully that it is normal?!?!

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    You're not insane, you're just lonely. I do the same thing sometimes. I shouldn't torture myself like that though.

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    • lonelygirlx
      11 years ago

      That's reassuring - I know what you mean, it's definitely torture!

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      • Short4Words
        11 years ago

        What I meant was that imagining people, next you or wherever to cull the loneliness, I have to think it'll only end up hurting us.

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        • lonelygirlx
          11 years ago

          It was just all I could think of at the time!

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          • Short4Words
            11 years ago

            No I get it, I'm not condemning you, I'm trying to encourage you not depend on it, and replace it with something better.

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            • lonelygirlx
              11 years ago

              Not sure what I was replying to, could have sworn there was a message about my name and about not labelling myself.. I'm a bit confused about where I read that haha!
              But yeah I meant the imagining bit being the torture too, cause as soon as I decide I'm going to stop - I just become more miserable.

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  • sograceful
    11 years ago

    I'm a girl, and I do that. Whether I'm in a relationship and it's my boyfriend I imagine with me, or I'm single it's the guy I like. It's perfectly normal, it just stems from that seemingly inborn human trait of desiring to be loved

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  • SangoNyappy
    11 years ago

    I do the same but I imagine fictional guys I have crush on next to me. I regret nothing.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    11 years ago

    I am so glad you put this up I thought I was the only one! Sometimes though It just makes me feel worse

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    • lonelygirlx
      11 years ago

      definitely makes me feel worse too!

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  • Nokia
    11 years ago

    It is okay to have imaginary friends of sorts, and can even be helpful. They can help you with your problems and give advice, or just accompany you when you are lonely. Just as long as you realize that this being is only in your head, and has no effect on the outside world, you should be fine.

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  • squirrelgirl
    11 years ago

    I do the same thing, except with my favorite fictional characters. I like to pretend that we sleep in a pile like the characters in Where the Wild Things Are. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Yep I'm a guy and I do the same thing. You're just lonely.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    I'm doing this with a woman, I got Jennifer Lawrence in my bed but she's snoring and hogging the blanket
    This is gonna be a long night

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  • RougeTheBat
    11 years ago

    Well at least when you get in a relationship you'll be prepare,practice makes perfect!

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  • fmaforlife
    11 years ago

    i feel you. i dont get much attention and kinda do the same thing but i have a personal comic i make of being loved. your gonna be fine.

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  • redoctober
    11 years ago

    Just a word of caution here.

    As there isn't really anybody there I'm sure you are farting and doing all sorts of gassy things.

    Just be sure when somone really is eventually there, you bare that in mind, otherwise you might find an empty bed again :(

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