Is it normal that i prefer sex on my own than with my gf?

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I love my gf, we've been together a few years and used to have a great sex life. But I'm someone who's always enjoyed watching a bit of porn and having a wank on my own. Over the last year I have found myself more and more preferring to get off on my own than with my gf.

I still fancy her, but sex seems to be such an effort and I just can't be bothered with it. I do feel guilty because I know she gets frustrated and has even stopped initiating sex, because I usually turn her down. I don't know how to overcome my lack of interest.

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  • kulashaker
    12 years ago

    I too find wanking to p0rn so much ... I shy from using the word better ... but it allows you to visualise any fantasy - even those you would never dream of telling ur gf about.

    That being said I am now making an effort to moderate my wanking and re-train my brain to be turned on by actual sex. I think it's only fair to the girl.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Yeah I need to do that, my relationship is important to me and I know I'm being selfish. You're right its only fair, but really not as easy as it sounds.

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  • ews3
    8 years ago

    For the first ten years of my marriage my wife an I fucked on a fairly regular basis, always with me taking her in the missionary position and usually me fucking her from behind and pulling out at the last minute and cumming on her back. She looks gorgeous when fucked from behind. I stopped fucking her as it became too much effort for the limited pleasure it gave me and for the last 25 years have been masturbating, sucking cock and swallowing cum without her knowing.

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  • joker69676
    9 years ago

    I was having that problem too kind of... well, i used to get excited for sex but i think its honestly bc of the guys i was with, i just... eh. I quit even expecting to get off, so i didnt have a good attitude about it to begin with. I started geting annoyed when theyd want sex but not give a damn if i ever got off. I actuslly think one of them just didnt know though. It was way harder, i mean, i felt a little bad even when theyd want sex but i wasnt even turned on because i already knew who was getting off. So id have to actually make aneffort to get turned on, when it used to come so easliy. And ah, well, im getting used to doing it myself. If you cum fast, add foreplay. Thats all it takes. I was with a guy who came before i was even in the mood completly sometimes. Then, he was suprised when i wanted to have sex again the same day. And he still came too fast. Well, when he came isnt even the problem. It was just that i could never get turned on enough. ...wham,bam, thank you ma'am... :/ so yeah, getting used to doing it myself. But if my partner did what you were doing, id be feeling pretty shitty. Not trying to make you feel bad, but if i was turned down for sex a lot by who i was with, id feel like they didnt find me attracive, or good enough ..it hurts. Id get depressed.

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  • JustDave
    12 years ago

    Nobody does it better.

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