Is it normal that i prefer older married men than single (younger)men?

This post really consist of two points. The first being that I love older men, and the 2nd I prefer married men than single men. The two points go hand in hand most of the time. Anyway. I have this thing for older guys. It's kind of a big thing. I'm only 18 years old (19 soon), but ever since the age of at least 11 I've always wanted an older guy in my life. I find anything between 18 (or below) -26 to be young. I don't ever see myself dating a guy my age or anything below the age of 27 unless he has a really interesting attractive mind. Young guys are just unattractive. Not really in a physically way. It's like their age is disgusting. It makes them ugly. And they're usually either very mature or extremely immature. Whereas older guys seem to find a balance. And they know a lot more about sexuality and tend to make me feel comfortable about my sexuality. I've had a lot of older guys in my life. The oldest being in their 40s. It's really hot. I think they're handsome. The age is just a turn on. Like it makes them instantly sexier. They also make me feel safe, and I love the thought of dating a guy old enough to be my dad or even older than my dad. The fatherly figure. I'd date a guy up until the age of 50-late 50s. Like I'd marry one, not for his money (if he happened to be quite wealthy), just because of I dunno love, if it existed between us. I'd take care of my older man. Most of these older guys in my life are usually married. I'd rather date an older guy who is married than an older guy who isn't. It's like, I just want to be that bit of fun in their boring married life. I want to give them what their wives don't. Fulfil unfulfilled fantasies. And the sneaking around behind his wifes back is quite sexy, also the thought of being caught excites me. But I also don't want to be a homewrecker. It would break my heart knowing I ruined a marriage or broke a heart, but I can't seem to stop my urges. I wouldn't date a guy who is in a relationship though. Because men who are in relationships still have hopeful futures with their partners and are more likely to stay with their partners/go back to them. If you're married I either cannot have you, or I can. I found most married men would leave their boring lives to start a new one or stay with their partner and continue cheating until they've had enough. I don't mind either 2. If I end up with you, I'm happy. If I am the other woman you cheat on you "lifeparner" with I'm still happy and quite flattered. If you're dating I'm pretty sure I'm just a side chick being used for sex and you won't possibly develop any feelings for me that aren't sexuaul and if you wanted me you'd leave your girl. And even if I could have you and you left your girl I would never want to be with an ass like you who cheats on your girl then leaves her coz who's to say you wouldn't do the same thing with me. Older men are just sexier and more experienced, handsome, and I seem to love their cocks more. As for married men, I just feel like I want to add some fun in their lives. The problem is I always get my heartbroken coz I always fall in love...when, I know I can't have what's already taken :( my friends think I should date younger single guys because it's for my own good. But they just don't get that I can't be attracted to a young guy. I can't. It's difficult. Literally a struggle. I wouldn't be able to fall in love with him because I cannot see pass his age. - is this normal?

am I stupid for constantly doing this to myself by giving into my urge 2
should I date guys my age or guys who are at least a little younger? 0
should I stay away from married men? 4
should I take my friends' advice? 1
should I continue? 5
is this normal? 1
are my friends right? 0
should I continue getting my heartbroken? 0
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  • StarTeddy

    Your logic seems to be kind of twisted. It's fine to like older guys, it's just a matter of taste. But there's really not that much difference between a man who cheats in a relationship or a marriage. You know, it's not healthy to be dating married men behind their wives' back. You're hurting their marriage even if that's not your intention. It's also not healthy for you to constantly be dating men who are unavailable--that says something about yourself and your self-esteem. I think that if you want to date married men, you should do it with the consent of their wives (not as "exciting" but infinitely more ethical), or you should date single/divorced older men. You can still be the fun in their lives, and they'd actually be emotionally available if you decided you wanted to settle down with them.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy

    I am lazy I couldn't finish your story so I will just say its normal

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