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In fact, I wouldn't trouble myself with sex if cuddling wasn't a factor. I once considered hiring someone to cuddle me, but it would strike me as a tad strange to hear of someone doing something like that so I didn't bother. I'm a guy.
Cuddling leads directly to hardcore BDSM and cock and ball torture fetishes...Proceed with caution.
haha hey bro cuddling sounds kiddish but i would much rather just be in a bed with the girl i admire and just be able to touch and love on her as i would feel very good. I would take this over sex because it seems much more intimate to the type of person i am. I am not caught up in this world completely. I wish i could have the corage to be like Jesus though!
I didnt mean sex when i said "love on her"
You must be my ex-bf. He never wanted to sleep with me. I even started to think he was gay. Did a number on my self esteem. No, it's not normal for a young guy to prefer cuddling over sex.
I agree with you 100%!
If the OP thinks this attitude will make him more attractive to women, I believe he is sadly mistaken.
Cuddling is great, after sex or at times when sex isn't an option, but sex is more fun than just about anything I can think of, and even better with a partner!
Why is it so many young men are asexual, today?
I feel you!!! My ex was completely the same. Made me constantly feel i wasn't good enough :|
Right? It's the worst kind of rejection I've ever felt. It just rocks me to the core. Plus, I couldn't talk to him about it because once I brought it up, he felt inadequate and that only made the situation worse. I hope I never again wind up with a guy like that.
I used to be in a relationship that eventually ended up being cuddling only and no sex. I felt disappointed. Nearing the end of that relationship, I started to think sex was more important than it really was.
Since then, I've learned it was more than a lack of sex which was a problem in that relationship, there was no intimacy; not even with all the long hugs I wanted. Cuddling with someone who loves and desires you is considerably different from cuddling with someone who merely cares for you. And, even though cuddling with a person who cares for you is pleasant, cuddling with someone who loves and desires you is phenomenal. I'm so glad I figured out the difference.
I can understand how you feel the way you do. :)
You actually can hire someone to do that, I ummm ...read an article about it ...*cough.
"Professional cuddler".... although cuddling a stranger might defeat the purpose?
this is written by my husband, isn't it?? I love cuddling as much a the next women but when ever we cuddle it just makes me horney, pretty much, i can enjoy cuddling the most when i get it out of my system but he likes cuddling to sleep... sigh- I feel like a dude sometimes..
I have a female friend who is at university, and lives in a house with a boy who is exceedingly emotional, and very commonly asks for extended cuddles. They do have sex occasionally as well, and this having gone on for about 4 months has left the female despising the thing she once longed for, the emotional sensetive crying type, and now she can't stand this cuddling and wants a man to grab her and manhandle her.
So some people do seem to think this, but maybe it isn't what they find themselves really wanting.
I want to cuddle, but I can't even get a girl to want to hug me. I'm such a freak
Honestly, I think I'd rather cuddle than have sex. I don't want sex outside of a committed, monogamous, long term relationship preferably marriage to a soul mate who shares my religious, moral, political beliefs and a deep emotional, spiritual and intellectual connection. Otherwise I would prefer to be alone. It would be wonderful to find an asexual, Platonic friend who likes to cuddle.
I hate living in Las Vegas; it's a pit of douchebags!
Lol, I love that you followed religious and political beliefs with intellectual connection.
I did not see this coming from your other posts I've read. Sex can be just plain fun, you know. It can be purely physical, without the pressure of commitment and emotional involvement.
Unless your feelings on this are religious, you might want to enjoy your youth and become proficient at lovemaking. It can be a joyous, wonderful experience and deeply soul moving, even with a complete stranger. Some of my deepest and most cherished love affairs have lasted only a few hours.
HAHAHA...
I would say that to merely call my skills proficient even would be an understatement of my abilities. I've definitely had more than my share of casual encounters. My life has been a series of seasons over the past 44 years so I'm actually quite content to save any efforts I could make of the intimate variety and possible romantic entanglements for deep, monogamous, emotional commitment only. To be quite honest I'm very satisfied to fly solo and simply work on myself for now. I don't feel that I am missing out.
Ok, well I got it all wrong here. Sorry.
Of course, as a mature woman, you have gotten to know yourself pretty well, so I'll keep that sort of advice for the young ones who might want to hear it, or not?
I don't like to be crass, but you've piqued my prurient interest; "fly solo and simply work on myself for now", do you have a web cam?