Is it normal that i perve a lot? should i feel guilty?

oh man my hormones ran so hot during my teenage years, I was constantly distracted by girls and not very subtle about perving. I really believe my education suffered because of it. I think its normal because of your age but I dunno, just try and be more mature and exercise self control. Nothing wrong with having a look but if you're gawking then that is just gonna end in awkwardness and embarrassment.

It's normal but it's good you're not comfortable with it.

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your interest. I find generally, most of your comments were really helpful.

The general agreement seems to be that teenage male hormones make it nearly impossible to refrain from staring. Additionally, it seems that (like I thought) I need to learn to exercise self-control. Very subtle glimpsing is ok, as a rule, but I'll have to teach myself to respect the right to not be starred at.

Some of the comments you all made suggested that women who dress really scantily want to be checked out or starred at. While I know that's true in some scenarios, I don't think it's an invitation to treat them badly. Now when I put on a good, flattering shirt and jeans, shave, and get rid of my pimples, I'm usually trying to get the attention of one or two girls at my school.

That doesn't mean I want every girl to check me out, although TO BE HONEST I would love that attention from the opposite sex every one in a while. So I don't think it's blaming for dressing in a flattering or sexy way is cool, odds are it's for that one guy or girl they're trying to impress.

Anyway, it's scientifically verified that normal teenagers do have hormone problems and according to the general consensus, this manifests itself partly in an out of control libido (ie sex drive).

Thankfully my hormones are cooling down now. I don't have the same problems anymore because I've been training myself to not stare - I think it can be intimidating and uncomfortable for people. There's still work to be done, but I realise that glimpsing is not avoidable, but staring is.

I am a woman, but I am just as bad as a man, I am not obvious about my crimes ! hahaah

if i am really attracted to a girl..i stare until my eyes fall out....if they have a problem...fuck them

This happens ALL the time. It's a totally natural urge, it's just one that you should probably try to suppress in public. That girl probably has had that happen to her dozens of times, you're not as special as you think haha. She doesn't lay awake at night thinking about how you "violated her." Remember that looking and touching are two completely different things. You TRY not to look but you KNOW not to touch, that's the difference. Don't worry about her though. It's kind of sweet that you do actually haha ;)

I'm a girl, and I do the same thing to guys all the times. Just do it discreetly so that you don't scare people okay?

I do it alot, but I'm not an "obvious stare" kind of guy, I consider that quite rude.

But it's double edged. I've seen hot girls get weirded out because I wouldn't look at them like that, just ignored their presence.

While your urges are normal, your obsession with staring isn't. It can get ou fired for visual harassment. Learn to glimpse dicretely, without anyone(especially her) noticing. If you must stare, confine it to porno, or go to strip clubs, where it's expected.

You're just like any other guy. Its good that you realize that staring is not a good idea, you should try to stop. But girls like being checked out a little bit, its flattering, as long as you aren't just staring. If you want to check girls out, just take a few quick looks and then go talk to them. Or move on and stop looking. But don't just stare.

I've done that. This girl had such a short skirt I could see her ass it was fine.

No. There's nothing wrong with it. You're attracted to them. No need to feel guilty.

That's absolutely normal in your age. I'd feel flattered if someone stares at me because he finds me attractive. xD

It's natural, i can't help but stare at a cute ass every now and again.

Just out of curiosity, do you look at pornography? Pornography teaches the viewer to objectify others. That being said I don't approve of females running around in skirts with no panties on either.

Well she was asking to be looked at in that manner by wearing a short skirt. You shouldn't think of yourself as a bad person, just something you should work on.

People don't have a right to privacy when they are in public. Stare away.

Mate I'm 43 and am still perving on girls all the time.

Most men never grow out of looking at attractive girls - it's in our job description!

As long as you're not creepy & overboard about it I wouldn't think it's a problem.

If she ever confronts you in public this I what I would say: "deal with it"

Next time, talk to the girl. It's not regret of staring that you feel. Subconsciously, you regret not having the balls to talk to her, get her attention. The outcome would've been better. Become the man you wish you were. That way you won't be wishing but living

man relax it's normal.
1: girls are not saints, so don't worry too much about her " offended look"
2: if you were the hotter or the popular guy of the class, they would give you the other look
3: her friend were probably jealous hehe

I`m glad that I don`t get that kind of attention anymore!

It's wrong that you stare, just try not to. But it is normal for a teenage male to have such urges.

Ive done the same thing before but it was in gym class and she had these tight short shorts on. Dude...it was amazing hahaha not trying to sound like a dog (which im doing a pretty bad job at) but she was irresistable!! Still is but it was my Junior year and we were doing yoga (which made it a billion times more sexy). I swear all the guys were looking at her so i didnt feel that intrusive for staring but i should have. Downward dog dude...downward dog.

if she does confront you in public then just try to be compimeanting and apoligize in a serouis way say like you dident mean to but you caught a glimpse while looking at something on wall e.g and was drawn to it Girls useally like it when a guy tells em they have a nice arse or figure

Use the 3 second rule. And find out IF you want or should talk to her. Getting turned on is one thing but don't look like a perv in public. Online, thats a different case, lol